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To Whom It May Concern,

 

Welcome to the continuing dialogue that expresses the personal thoughts & beliefs that individuals as well as groups of human beings hold as truths…

 

I hear you. No, we are not going to talk in riddles.

 

Yes, I have heard of those claiming to be redeemed, selected amongst the many, & thus being one of the enlightened.

 

You ask if each of us are not merely by-products of parents, institutional indoctrinations & our communities, not to belabor the morals, ethics, prejudices & biases superimposed on us…

 

While all the above aspects are a portion of collective influences on any given individual, can one afford to negate let alone deny the power of choice & what is commonly referred to as “Free Will”..?

 

Imagine taking responsibility for one’s own thoughts as well as feelings associated with the actions and/or in-actions chosen.

 

What? You mean I can’t play within the written script of victim vs. perpetrator?

 

What about the confines & rules of criminalizing & demonizing the selected lepers who are branded by color, gender, race, socio-economic factors…  Oh, & those who are legally registered as deviants..?

 

Are you saying that we as people can’t feel better by standing on another’s shoulders & misfortunes?

 

Not at all…But let us be clear at what point does one reach the age of enlightenment? (accountability)

 

Does one enter another’s heaven or hell? Is it conceivable that each individual contributes to both his own heaven or the collective’s hell…?

 

Dare to understand the significance of SELF-abuse, despair, anger, loathing or exploitation…

 

Is it possible to even consider awakening while in the sleep state to be-come aware -   Conscious of consciousness, observing the observer, seeing the seer??? Experiencing the expression of transcending 4-D time & space.

 

Perhaps to know one’s own truth requires pure intent… The allowing of one to question even the mundane – to push the envelope beyond human logic thus strengthening reality based in the basic senses of touch, taste, sight & hearing. What if seeing is relative & significantly diverse to that which is seen???

 

Are you crazy? I can’t move against city hall. I can’t change my fate. I’m just one person – my vote can’t change government. Take life or leave it. Sounds like you’re messing with my head.

 

No way, no messing… Only posing an opportunity to consider a different perspective in an effort to assist one in viewing a challenge in perception that will affect an attitude & thus an experience.

 

Empowerment to take conscious ownership of one’s voice, heartbeat & personhood in a world awaiting direction from humanity to create the grandest version of the greatest vision of what is desired.

 

Will the one of the many manifest & reap the fruit created in despair, doubt, control, power & fear…

 

Or will the collective align & re-construct a new age fostered in joy, harmony & love…

 

Not at all… Nobody is going all creamy & soft…

 

Love is a re-lationship… No, not a destination… It’s the fate of all humans pretending to be having a human existence.

 

You chose. You can sit on the sidelines or actively participate. An expression of life based in separation, isolation or integration…

 

Each has the divine privilege of clinging to superstition & myth.

 

Move within & construct your own version of reality… Yes, the version of your own story of creation including life, death, success & failure.

 

Until Life unites us,

 

Namaste’…

 

Keliyah

 

To Whom It May Concern,

Welcome to our continuing conversation…

I am very aware that people are becoming increasingly agitated & irritated in their personal lives…

I hear you… No, I am not taking your thoughts & feelings for granted…

Putting food on the table, being able to pay the rent or mortgage & pay basic utility bills are definitely linked to being employed and/or being able to receive assistance…

Absolutely! The anger & frustration is growing & permeating the fabric of the minds of those humans who would continue to be polarized within political agendas…

Would you repeat that please? Yes Ma’am… Allow me to see if I understand what you’re saying… To be pulled into the same antiquated rhetoric of conservative versus Liberal & Republican versus Democrat… flavored with the issue of separation of church & state, racial biases, rich versus poor & the illusion of daily threats from the devil & non-Christian infidel who plot to enslave you, not to mention to destroy the American way of Life are indeed archaic.

Oh, I apologize… Please take your time… I am listening…

Yep, you do sound burdened with the aspects of political strategies applied to further divide & polarize brothers & sisters with the emotional constructs of legal & illegal immigrants…

Wow! Did I hear you correctly? There are those with the political agendas of obstructing, circumventing & even amending the U.S. Constitution that would strengthen the haves versus the have-nots?

Allow me to ask??? Does the end justify the means?… Is it acceptable for us as a people to rationalize killing off those who don’t look or believe as I or the so-called we do???

It is not my intention to dilute your beliefs & thoughts any more than to dismiss you as an individual…

The position that the various democratic & tyrannical governments find themselves in such chaos is not based in mystical conspiracies…

No Way! Human beings around the world are both expecting & demanding political, economic, religious & judicial transparency leading to freedom & the empowerment of Life for the people , by the people & of the people…

The politician re-moved and the conscious Statesman re-awakened…

We hear you human! Change can be scary.. Yet, has it not been said, “To  name the demon is to de-power it…” Do you remember when the child calls out in the night for the Mom & Dad..?

Convinced the boogie man is there, The Light is turned on. Dad kneels to look under the bed & Mom looks in the closet & closes its door.

Encouraged to relax & go to sleep, the Light is turned off & the caregivers return to whatever they were doing.

Again a cry arises from the darkness, the parent enters, the Light is turned on & the room is again searched…

This time as the Light is turned off, the child requests the adult to lay next to him…

Interesting to note, the child drifts off to sleep… The relationship with the so-called darkness no longer interferes with trust & security…

Tell us, where did the boogieman go??? Who or what is the boogieman???

Is it not time for both the individual & the collective to wake-up??? Actively, with intent, consciously accept responsibility for the choices made equally as the choices for responsibilities abdicated to those who, with purpose, would usurp the individual’s & collective’s to represent Self Interest cloaked in the illusion, “What I’m doing is for your own good”..?

Dare each human be-ing look within & re-aquaint the Self with the aspects of their humanity in relationship to their local & global family???

OM …
Keliyah

 

To Whom It May Concern,

Hello, some time has lapsed since our last conversation…

What’s that you’re saying?  Yes, I too am aware of the concerns and fears of the people around the world…

I’ve seen articles and heard how television is depicting global warming, economic crisis, governmental crackdowns on human rights; not to mention political jockeying for Power and Control…

Not at all, I am not adding to the fear based doom and gloom of our nation nor for the world at large…

I’m just suggesting, as with all myth-perceptions, conventional thought is filled with the assumptions that people are inherently evil…

Programming from both secular and non-secular institutions have convinced the masses that the various forms of violence are destabilizing and destroying our civilization…  Such beliefs lead to an erroneous conclusion that aggressiveness and selfishness are within the very genetics of humankind and thus unavoidable…

Are we just an evolved form of a naked ape???

Okay… I can understand that you believe this dialogue is merely Rhetoric…

What if the purpose of this conversation is for each of us and the collective of us to consider this postulate: Fighting is less necessary when resources are abundant.  Therefore, when fighting decreases, resources become more abundant…

Go ahead, laugh!!!  This could offer some insight in a world that spends greater than one trillion dollars yearly on weaponry…

Yes, guns to butter…resources diverted from protection (fear/dominant based) to growth… a boost to health and societal prosperity…

Will we continue to view and co-create a dog-eat-dog world???

Are you suggesting that we held the view of humanity and life as a harmonious process and then prostituted our internal knowing of nurturing to existing in a violent jungle???

Absolutely!  This image was derived from biased observations and conclusions made using distorted science…

I know you think I’m off my rocker… But give me a moment…

What is often observed as violence in nature, is a byproduct of a predator-prey relationship.  There is a rivalry over territory, mates and food.  Yet within this form of violence it is rarely fatal… acknowledgement occurs in a territorial dispute and the defeated animal moves away…

Bear with me a little longer… Indeed, humans are part of this so-called fabric of life…

We are not at the bottom of the food chain nor do we dodge a natural predator…

Tell me then, what mandates man to prey upon another human???

Sat Nam…
Keliyah
To Whom It may concern,

I offer a hello & bid you welcome…

Yes, it’s time in this given moment of NOW that we continue in a dialogue in an effort to recognize the Self within the context of be-ing both here & there…

I hear you snicker as you say, “Here we go again!” its understood that you view some of this conversation as trivial & contradictory…

Yet honored you are for giving the intent for such a communication to have begun in the first place…

Many of you are becoming increasingly concerned with the year 2012. Although, a vast number are easily distracted by the current political situation & the fear based patterns echoed in all to familiar so called “Social Issues, Job Security, & What’s In It For Me???”

An iconic image of a increasing exponentially proportion could be used to illustrate humanity as a moveable arrow indicating progress…

This progress could be based within the context of learning & evolution…

STOP YOU SAY! NO, I am in no way trying to belittle anyone for his/her basic concerns related to survival…

Recorded history exemplifies the significant changes in human behavior when new information & experiences are encountered…

HOLD ON! Aren’t food, shelter & clothing necessary for survival of the human species?.?

Indeed, yet dare I draw your attention to Maslow’s Hierarchy…May I ask you what the effect would be for the individual or collective who holds the belief in a “Scarcity” Model of the Universe versus an Understanding  of Universal “Abundance”???

For in a scarcity paradigm, not only are things & basic resources in short supply, compassion, tolerance, and yes, even Love is scarce

Take a moment, look at the “Old” picture of your family… Glance at the clothes, washing machines, stoves & automobiles… Think of dialing a rotary phone…

O.K., I’m getting the point… Bear with me…

If you look at the technological innovations in the last 3 years, you’d have to agree they have altered your life & impacted every species on Planet Earth…

Go ahead, state your grievance of this portion of our conversation… Say it again… You say it’s an old discussion that never ends!

No, absolutely NO! This is not a mere ideological point of view being forced on you or anyone else for that matter…

Thank you, I will continue… I would be grateful if I answered you by asking if this ever-repetitious pattern you co-created is going to continue to be cyclical???

What do you mean, I created??? It’s election time & I want things to change… I want my vote to be heard!!!

Oh, is that like those who want their vote to count & those who say, “I’m only one person, what can I do?”

Or is it like those who say they care & don’t even go to the polls because it’s raining out…?

No, I am not being sarcastic… I am asking you, do you have to repeat the doom & gloom pattern or would you even consider, just consider that evolution & growth are in play.?.

Remember, before you answer, you still have all your lifelines… you may phone a friend, or ask the audience…

Is that you final answer?… Yes! And Yes!

Absolutely correct, both situations are occurring simultaneously…

Well you have learned, Aboriginals & those self-producing survived when they came into harmony with the cycles of Nature… No technological progress was even required…

No, I am not saying one ought to return to the “Stone Age”… I am noting that both Western & Asian countries are overly preoccupied with the arrow of technological progress that eclipses the fabric of humanity & nature…

Would you risk choosing Balance, Harmony & Global Peace for the remnants of dis-harmony, imbalance & global chaos???

Know that one vote, one voice does matter unless you choose to live as if it doesn’t…

A static mind will experience the world as unchanging & cyclical… a belief system so ingrained that life is predictable based within the patterns repeating in the stars, nature & what has reoccurred over thousands of years…

Victim or perpetrator shall your play… complicit in the aspects of being hopeless & thus helpless…

Perhaps a dynamic descriptive aspect of human existence could be considered…

To awaken to a consideration that Life is by nature dynamic, evolving & growing presenting change as it re-invents situations, circumstances & choices for humans to make in an effort to express the experience they CONSCIOUSLY seek to co-create…

In no manner of fact can anyone prove that Nature or Human Beings are static…

That being said, why not accept the challenge of creating, so as to experience, the greatest version of the grandest vision of who you want the World to know of you…

The table is set, there is enough for Everyone…

Enjoy…
Keliyah

 

To Whom it may concern,

I bow before each of you who have asked about this continuing dialogue, equally as I bow before those I greet who have no interest in said conversation…

Yes, it would appear that it has been a moment in time since I have responded to your thoughts & comments… Please allow me to re-mind you, we have been listening…

Aware of the chaos that you mentioned previously is well noted…

The aspect of chaos that you share fades into all the aspects of many attributes utilized with Spirit in an effort to help those pre-tending to be human so as to re-member the T-R-U-T-H  within…

Ah, dare to recognize yet “another” who is both exiting and “another” who is entering upon your stage & playing a role in the play…

Absolutely, That’s right! It’s a Love affair within the context of a play…

Grateful many people are in that they are aware of the purpose & function of the illusions that support this so-called dream…

Yes, aware I am of your feeling worrisome & tired of the aspects of both abandonment & betrayal…

You want the chaos, confusion, & dishonesty to cease…

Feeling the need to isolate, to withdraw from everyone & everything.?.

Oh to run – to hide – to be safe from the known as well as the unknown yet to arrive…

The proverbial third shoe is about to fall again…

The history of human activity that contracts & continues to bring pain…

Your sense of knowing recognizes the tones of ah ha – I got it… I understand,  as much as those that say, oh God no!.. What’s happening to me..?

The heart energy within you knows and, yes, understands the ultimate universal Love  necessary for “allowing” pure conscious intent to manifest the awaken human’s wildest dream…

Are you, yes you  —willing to surf through the illusions of this 3-D field, seasoned with fear, doubt, anxiety, & mistrust?.?

Are you even willing to consider the mere “possibility of possibilities” – to go within & step without so as to express the experience desired first to be- to do & to have… ???

Be aware, the mind will, with the ego, create sufficient obstacles & blocks that will challenge your faith & trust…

Just wait… you’ll watch & you will see beyond mere human sight…

Transformation within awaits your beckon call… seek to allow finding, ask to allow giving & of course, knock & all will be open…

For you, my friend, hold the answer to each question… The Light within will provide you with the direction you choose to take upon your path…

How often have you thought, is this a time to go or a time to stay???

Oh my beloved, must it appear as one or the other???

Per chance it’s a single moment contained within the tapestry of Life merely to be… to be still & re-member you & I are made within “One” image…

Sat Nam as you draw a cleansing breath that asks no question nor listens for an answer…

All is well in your Soul as it is in mine…

Our Soul is well…

Smile…

Keliyah…

 

To Whom It May Concern,

Ah, here we are willing to risk exposing ourselves to the mirror image of the so- called other…

Great comment you say…Well, it’s very understandable that often one finds herself shackled by the past, while running to escape the present, & unable to realize the potential of the future…

Oh, to allow life to unfold & to truly just be in the moment…

Alright, just consider this comment for the minute… A given society tends to dictate an individual’s purpose for being… In that sense, it might be said, that she would move to the beat of another’s drum…

Yes, I would agree that the beat of the drum could also be coming from a parent’s expectation…

Would you not be in agreement that many people strive for things that they are taught to strive for..?

Okay, I’ll add to that comment…Metaphorically speaking, there are those who remain asleep, & those that appear to sleepwalk through life…

Many are indoctrinated that to be valuable, they must live a successful life & be of importance…

Again, one begins to behave as a human doing in an effort to be a human having…

What would happen in one’s life if one were first & foremost a human be – ing??? And while we’re at it, may I inquire, what would it be like if one were to awaken & recognize the true essence which resides “WITHIN” the so-called You, as You are pretending to be a human being?..

Imagine, alive even in the illusion of Life & Death…

Until then, which is now…OM,

Keliyah

 

To Whom It May Concern,

Namaste~… We are continuing a conversation regarding a genuine desire to question a thought, a feeling, & even one’s very intact belief system…

It’s not uncommon for one to become entangled with a home, a family, work, & mundane relationships… While tethered to his possessions, he continues to hold tightly to his self-made blueprint to the future…

Not only is an individual conditioned to hold fast to what he has, he’s expected to want for more… A stable tomorrow is connected to that which is bigger, better, & more…

Slow down a moment!!! Are you saying to have more of this or that can actually cause me problems..?

Have you not heard the saying: “Possession is nine tenths of the law?…” Being emotionally, mentally, or physically yoked to a relationship, job, object, or the need for power & control, may lead to a state of bondage…

No way, I certainly would not equate owning  or wanting to have things could cause me to experience distress, dis-ease, anxiety, or emotional suffering… Okay, then what relationship would cause a human being to experience such symptoms.?.

Just hold on, are you suggesting that I ought not to work hard to get ahead or my life not be better than my parents???

No, I’m not suggesting that at all… But I am saying that this illusionary world, with all its glitter & drama, is most alluring, & definitely enticing… Hold fast a minute…I’ve heard it said: “Reach for the gusto, we only go around once”…

And if it’s true that you only live once, & life is too short, well, this one’s for me!!!

I understand the euphuisms, & clichés… I clung to them myself for awhile… Life appears to be long while you’re moving within this play… And it has also been said the same is true for some dreams…

How often has someone said, “WOW! I had a wild dream last night… It was so real & seemed to last a long time”… Yet that so-called long dream was over & done within ninety seconds…

Again, a mere moment in time…We are born, take a physical body complete with an identity, have a life, & then at a point in that same expanded moment, give up this physical form… ?Not unlike a snake shedding its skin…

Dare to awaken in this dream??? Go ahead, try not to take this life too seriously…Take a breath & enjoy just this moment…

Close your eyes & look within…

Dare recognize your truth??? Smile, You are loved above & beyond any measure…

Sat Nam…

Keliyah

 

To Whom It May Concern,

Welcome to a moment that suspends time & space from your daily routine….

Yes, I too am grateful for our dialogue…

What’s that you say? No, you & I are not this body…

What do you mean…what do I mean?

Okay, tell me when you are finished with this body, doesn’t it return to the earth? You’ve heard it said: “Dust to dust and ashes to ashes”…

So if the body’s temporal & is no longer, where did you go? And just who are you & I anyway?

Go ahead & laugh!!! But just think, an infant arrives in this world attached to no words or conceptual thoughts…

All too soon, the child is immersed in a given culture complete with letters & sounds that correspond to mental constructs… These concepts eventually take shape & molds the individual’s mind…

Such simple words are employed to identify a flower, a car, or whatever… together they produce ideas & images that forms the world that surround her…

That’s correct…the mind not only creates but sustains a relative world that mirrors the images words have produced…

Thusly, the life of the so-called human being becomes well entrenched… In a blink of an eye, the individual fully believes that the appearance of this world is reality…

Yet on some level, you would agree with me that this world is also temporal – that is to say temporary…

So if you, I, & this world are to be, at some given time & space, no longer then who are “we” really?

Entertain me for a moment…no need to snicker & ask if I’ve lost my mind…

What if there were an essence of a form of awareness or consciousness, so to speak, that inhabits the aspect of this worldly play called the body… Yes, the one that corresponds to your name as well as to mine…

I can barely hear you…say it again please… Yes, I understand that… This essence of consciousness becomes the physical form & expresses itself as the person you & I appear to be…

Who was it who said, “Not all things are as they would appear…”? Allow me to ask this question… what if no-thing, nothing is as it would appear…

Each of us enters the 3-D realm with strong perceptual senses superimposed upon this essence of consciousness…

We enter this world in a relationship within a contextual field of what is often referred to as a world of contradictions, duality, & opposites…

Let’s agree to wake-up… Let’s get out of our mind…who are we anyway???

You are honored without measure,

Keliyah

 

To Whom It May Concern,

Salutations to those who have chosen to relate to these words upon this page…

Many people begin our dialogue together by asking a seemingly simple question…

Yet all too often, even a small question is impossible to answer in words, for it goes beyond the mind…

Ever try to explain colors to one who is visibly blind.?.

Say what??? No, a blind person lives in the same dream world as you do… Yes, he experiences dreams as vividly as another would…

The name for the flash of color experienced in a blind one’s dreams would not be called the color you may see…

Ever try to glimpse the understanding of higher principles that come from within…?

No, not your illusionary intellectual knowing but “intuitiveness”…

An “ultimate” truth is always – all ways found within and never externally…

Yes, the mind and ego have a role to play in the relative reality…They utilize your senses to compartmentalize and organize vibrations, thoughts, and feelings into a coherent reality so that each individual can relate to the world around them…

As one chooses to wake-up, he comes to learn that both ego and mind are complicit in distorting the ‘”truth” as much as possible… through systematic conditioning it will impose its own ideas, opinions, and beliefs upon any given situation demanding attention…

It is most understandable when a human being who experiences a spontaneous understanding or an “intuitive” insight chooses to resist such “knowing”…

Commonly, people are addicted to wanting to know how they know…

Re-member, the mind serves as a link between the universal and the individual…

That’s correct, the thinker is indeed the individual…

The eyes take the vibration of what   is seen and sends them to the mind which makes sense out of what appears to be present…

I hear you… I know it’s understood… so what am I trying to say???

Okay, take a moment and gaze intently on an object… Now allow your mind to think about someone or something that is important and pleasing… That’s right, become conscious of the pleasing thought…

While you are in this process, the eyes continue to transmit the vibration of the object to the mind…yet no visible vibrations are being translated into conceptual images while the mind is occupied in a thought…though it can have only one thought at a time…

Now forget your thought and be in the present moment…now you are aware of the original object…

Say what, you say..?

Well, isn’t it amazing to realize just how much one creates one’s own perception and experiences thus experiences that of their own making moment to moment…

One’s experiences, thoughts, and feelings are n-e-v-e-r caused by a so-called other, not created by what’s happening around one…

The outer world is a reflection of the world within…

Feeling depressed, angry, nervous, or fearful??? Take a deep breath… That’s right, breathe and monitor your thoughts…

Change your attitude and thus change your current thought…

Yes, you’ve heard it before…Dare take the lemons and make lemonade…But what about making something else…Go ahead, risk it… Make a “conscious” choice…

Namascar`…

Keliyah

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To whom it may concern,

We greet you in equanimity and wholeness… all being well, we celebrate your “pure intent” and “willingness” to continue the exploration of “self” which is wonderously interwoven within and designed to unfold upon the journey of your life…

As we re-mind you, no-thing, nothing is as it would appear… thusly, occurring ups and downs during life will purposely produce growth or personal fears…

Ah, what’s that you said: “what else is new?” A normal human response indeed…

Yet, we must beg the question… which of those possibilities will dominate, becomes dependent upon how one – you view change… Is it exciting or frightening???

As you each choose to “Let Go” and S-T-O-P creating a world around you that must be predictable, controllable and definable — you’ll intuitively co-create an “Inner” world stimulating no more Fear… dare now to imagine your manifestations!!!

Know this beyond attempting to understand it with the mind… Fear, doubt, or whatever its form, doesn’t desire to feel itself, as it’s actually afraid of itself…

Fear is a thing… Merely another object in the Universe one is capable of experiencing…

Sooo, human beings tend to utilize the mind in an attempt to manipulate life for the sole purpose of not feeling fear… re-member, what you fear you attract…

Dare to Re-cognize that you have it..? Work to Re-lease it or keep it only to hide and deny its presence…

Just to remind you, anger, greed, judgment; intolerance are all forms of fear…

Why fight or compete with life… You, yes, each of you are life itself… Can you handle a brain teaser??? Okay, here goes… Life has never been designed to be under your control…

Life is continuously changing… Go with the flow of synchronicity and observe what happens…

Yes, a thousand times yes, fear is created by blockages in the flow of your energy… Vortexes of energy referred to as chakras, become blocked by various constricting forms of fear…

Just try hugging someone who spoke words that hurt your feelings… It’s difficult at best…

Become aware of your thoughts, feelings and simple patterns of behavior… No, No, No!!! Do not condem nor judge them… Merely observe what they reveal to you…

With that said, you wait, you watch; you’ll see… Quiet the body, breathe and go between two thoughts… Just be…

You truly are a beautiful human-be-ing…

Om Shanti,

Keliyah…

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To whom it may concern,

Greetings to those whose eyes are relating to the words in this dialogue. Let us begin by begging the question, “Who am I that is unknown and thus trying to build a concept of myself in an effort to be known…?”

What’s that you say???  Unknown by whom..!  Great question..! Your comment is indeed deep…Ah, I hear you… In an effort to be known by whom..?    Well, like so many, I too have had to deal with a great amount of criticism and gossip…  I have been accused of those things that are true;  ???????…and of those that are not…    Many have seen me in such a poor light that I have been treated as an outcast; a dredge to society…  This includes my closest friends, loved-ones and even family…I wouldn’t doubt if the entire human community viewed me as a leper….    I’m sorry.  I got so wrapped up within my thoughts that I couldn’t quite hear you….  Would you repeat that please..?    Yes, I would agree that public disapproval is indeed one of the most intense things one can experience…

Okay, I can imagine what you are saying…  Let me see if I can understand this…    When I am at a point in life where there is much opposition, persecution or abuse that is directed toward me…  just or unjustly, I have been given the opportunity to view what I have attained inside of  myself as well as that not yet attained and thus to seek direction on where to go from there…    What do you mean, “It doesn’t matter what people say or think about me???  Who would want to get to know me if they heard and then believed I was so terrible..?”    Do you have any idea just how terribly unknown and unwanted I have felt..?  Some of you reading this have…  Really???    That’s right.  One day I could be cherished as a hero and the very next day, I am despised as a villain….    Yeah, I can see that for sure… When I continue to respond to the opinions of others, I am feeling the ego…  Only the ego reacts to or even cares what another sees or thinks…    Absolutely correct!!!  If choosing to detach from what others think of me, I go beyond being an object to others as I go beyond ego…    It’s an on-going dialogue…. Who am I that appears to be unknown desiring to be known by another???    True, I am capable of knowing my own true inner Be-ing and perhaps in so knowing my own inner Being, I just might recognize the inner Being of All…    I am grateful for that which was once said: “To know thyself and to thyself be true”…    Namaste’…  Keliyah

To whom it may concern,

Greetings and thank you for a wonderful question involving personal growth and spiritual evolution within consciousness…

The aspect of curiosity regarding the prospect of the world around you signals a presence of awareness that encompasses the illusions of time and space…

It is appropriate to comment that when one is keenly aware of the various delusions attached to the “play” of life, it can be filled with humor and joy thus no longer taken too seriously …

Interesting to note that Love of co-creation is discussed as a“secret” of the cosmos… Yet sages, prophets and the messiah alike were consciously aware of their multidimensional energies that allowed them to move through the 3D relative world in BALANCE and HARMONY …

The question concerning how to cope with the relative and surrounding energies that people have forgotten profoundly begged and thus demands an answer…

Re-member, the clearer the question, the clearer the answer will be presented…

The question is ultimately one of pure simplicity, yet can be vary convoluted to the human being who is limited while in the relative dimension…

The human mind attempts to wrap itself around the concept and mental constructs that it creates to make sense of something… So the mind thinks and then doubts…

In order to have knowledge and understanding and then be able to experience that which is desired to be known by one, he must go within…

To move beyond the relative world, you must get out of the mind… In so doing, as questions are posed and answers sought, an Intuitive knowing unfolds and an inner dialogue comes forth and such things as clairvoyance presents itself…

For me, I had to be re-languaged as words limited my ability to move within wisdom, discernment and discretion…

I surrendered “control” and was encouraged to understand and form an intimate relationship with my clairvoyant energy…

Over time and personal evolution I began to comprehend various aspects of the energies and to understand the parameters of utilizing them and the boundaries needed to discipline me and meld both my Personhood and Masterhood… Thereby allowing me to use the ultimate truth within the contextual field of pretending to be a human-being…

It was essential that I learned how to turn them on and off, not unlike a light switch…

Feeling myself while moving within situations and among others became essential… My relationship of the self within was paramount in order to alter my biases of past life experiences, present religion and the current culture…

As my vibration increased, I had to support this with my pure intent and balance with high vibrational foods, rest and exercise…

Christ paid attention to his physical, emotional and spiritual bodies that signaled him to withdraw from the crowd and not deplete his energy…

My intent and willingness to allow the illusions of time and space to assist me in such growth, provided me with a means to cope with my universal interdimensionality in a world of illusionary distractions and drama…

My new perspective affected my perception which in turn has changed my inner experiences…

My work with a Phd. and a gifted instructor from a University setting also played a role in challenging me with all I was sure I knew… They helped me recognize that I had all the sense pleasures superimposed over the Self and like you had to make the choice to ask, to knock and to seek…

As you may have experienced, your pure intent and desire to find your truth must lead to the perverbial door being opened, the answers made known and the ah ha in the discovery of the so called HIGHER SELF…

The dialogue could go on and on and will vary from person to person..

In closing, you are honored without measure… Your humble servant…

Namaste’…

Keliyah

 

The word best is relative. Some people think that they become better people when they’ve climbed the ladder of success and reached the top. Some, on the other hand, believe that a happy family life will make them the best that they can be. The word is actually dependent on your aspirations in life. Admittedly, we all have different goals, and some of these goals may be harder to attain than the others.

Whatever our dreams are, we have to know that we only get better when we become stronger. Becoming better, whether physically, spiritually, or mentally, will, in turn, all depend on how we are as a person.

To start with, we have to learn to accept who we are and what our limitations are. We all have different talents and we need to know what our niche in life is so we can work on it. Our life’s experiences have shaped who we’ve become, and because we have different experiences, we all have unique talents and abilities. Someone who grew up in squalor may say that they have become more street-smart, a successful person may boast of his business abilities, and a mother may say that she is quite adept at balancing her time at work and with her family. Whatever it is, we’ve learned to cope with life because we simply had to. And in our efforts to meet all the demands placed on us, we had to learn the ways in which we can meet the expectations that others have of us.

The problem is that many people don’t want to accept who they are and what they’ve become. They sometimes let their past affect them, as if they were ashamed of the very thing that helped them become the person that they are. Living in shame is not a way to becoming our ultimate selves. If we do, we will spend our lives trying to hide our true nature. That’s simply no way to live!

We must know that there are just things we cannot change. These things should teach us to be proud of whom we are. After all, when we go through great misery, we come out of it filled with wisdom. We must share our story, because at least we can say that we had it in us to succeed despite the things that happened to us. We should be proudest of the things that we were once ashamed of. I assure you, people will see us with respect. They will know us as a person who can do it. This is the greatest gift we can share.

Take a look at the world around you and get to know the most successful individuals out there. You’ll soon learn that many of them were once selfish individuals. They’ve become who they are because they learned from their mistakes, and they shared these mistakes with people so that others may learn from it. They’ve become the unselfish gurus who thirst to give guidance to those who want to become as successful as they are. They’ve earned the respect of millions of people, and we all could be just like them if we learn to accept our mistakes and share our talents to those who need it. If things just worked this way, only then can we truly say that it’s a wonderful world.

Weaving Optimism And Positive Thinking Into Success

People can often be their own worst enemy, especially when they allow their negative feelings to create artificial barriers to achieving their goals, personally and professionally. We see this every day – person A begins talking enthusiastically about a new opportunity and immediately persons B and C shoot the idea down by focusing only on the negative outcomes that could potentially result.

In other cases they allow emotions like anger to cloud their judgment for no other reason than because they take everything that happens too personally. It’s almost as if their egos won’t allow them to miss an opportunity to get upset and start an argument. Coupled with a false sense of indignation they fail to realize that they are actually creating more barriers to resolving whatever the issue may have been in the first place.

While it’s true in nature that opposites attract, in real life nothing could be further from the truth. Positive people tend to draw towards other optimistic people, and of course negative people cluster together like schools of baitfish. The difference between the two groups is that the optimistic ones tend to simply stroll through life knowing that whatever challenges they encounter they will quickly and easily overcome.

A good example of these behaviors is in reviewing two identical technical support requests with diametrically opposite results.

In the first case, the positive customer is experiencing a problem installing a piece of software. Quickly realizing that the problem is beyond their skill level, they call the support hotline confident that resolution to the issue will be forthcoming. They cheerfully and courteously explain the problem they are experiencing and patiently worked with the support staff to correct it, which happens in a mere 10 minutes.

In the second case the negative customer is experiencing a similar problem. Frustrated and angry they call the support hotline and immediately launch into a belligerent tirade about the quality of the product and the company that produced it. While the support staff attempts to help the customer, they quickly become frustrated at the customer’s refusal to provide the needed information.

The customer insists upon escalating problem to a supervisor or manager where the tirade continues. After 45 minutes of arguing with various supervisors and managers and live no resolution in sight, the customer or threatens to sue or file legal complaints and hangs up without resolving the installation problem.

Optimistic people never worried about encountering problems with anything. They understand that things happen, more importantly they also understand that there is a solution out there somewhere. Their goal is to simply resolve the issue as quickly and efficiently as possible, which they know they will be able to do some way, somehow.

It’s for this reason that those who think positively and optimistically are far more likely to be successful in both their business and personal lives. They can’t help but know that everything is going to work out the way they expected to, if not even better.

How to Feel Energetic in Any Situation

When you feel the intensity of a situation and react with anger, you reach your breaking point. You break down, your energy is dissipated, and you become mentally and physically exhausted. Staying upbeat and positive, despite problems, is very difficult to do. You usually end up shifting your focus to the things that pull you down. In the end, you sulk and mope around, wishing that you were elsewhere. If everything you see on TV were real, you simply have to bring yourself to Shambhala, a place of sheer enjoyment and pure pleasure. But what good is this when you know you can’t find this place anywhere on the map? It’s not even in Tibet where the myth started in the first place.

But there is a Shambhala! In fact, it’s in every person at this very moment. Getting there, however, is another story altogether. A place of tranquility and peace is inside every person. The paradise mentioned above is a state of mind. If you can learn to better direct your thoughts, you can achieve an energetic state in virtually any situation or circumstances.

An energetic person is one who is always on the go. Despite any difficulties the person is facing, he or she is able to get back up and move on. As you go through a rainbow of experiences, some darker than others, you’ll see yourself stumble along the way. But stumbling isn’t always a bad thing. In fact, this could be your chance to know more about life and understand the many ways things work.

Yoga aficionados also believe in their form of exercise. Many swear by it and say that they are better able to take a step back from the issue and see the bigger picture. Unlike the common belief that exercise tires a person, facts show that it is, in fact, quite the opposite. It can be a way for you to release all your frustrations and have an outlet where you can channel all your anger. There’s a basic explanation behind the power of exercise. After a workout you will be able to see an increase in your serotonin and endorphin levels. These are known as happy hormones in layman’s term. Aerobic activities balance your emotions, calm your nerves, and lower your blood pressure. Try it and see your glow after every thorough workout.

Another strategy is to create your support system, a set of people who will love you and see you through every trial. They will help you stay hopeful and will be your pillar of strength when you are about to collapse. No structure can survive without the proper foundation.

If your energy level reaches the breaking point and you feel just plain tired, it might be time to make some simple changes. No matter what your age, these easy but powerful tips for increasing your energy can really help. You just have to remember that you can always support yourself and adjust your life according to the demands set on you. Coping with problems is a learned skill, but once you will yourself to master this art, you’ll soon find that you are more than ready to meet challenges head on. Happiness is a state of being, and achieving it relies in the power of your mind. Let your brain be the battery of your life’s energy.

Choosing Happiness

Happiness does not have to be something you hope to have sometime in the future. It is totally in your hands to make it happen now. Many people search their whole lives for happiness. For some, this search becomes endless, resulting in doubt that the attainment of happiness can ever be achieved.

Part of the problem might be that you are searching outside of yourself. Happiness is not found anywhere but within you. We all have the power to choose right here and now. The things happening in your life are immaterial because you choose how you are going to let these external factors affect you.

Sometimes we experience just how harsh reality can be. There are simply things that are way beyond our control, people who we just can’t change and circumstances that are just impossible to avoid. In times like these, we can choose peace. We can simply opt to forgive and experience an inner calm that gives us the strength to move on and continue.

In order for us to be able to use our power to choose happiness over everything else, we need to know what happiness is and what it truly means. Happiness is relative. Because we all came from different backgrounds, we don’t share the same likes, dislikes, and pet peeves. In other words, only you can really define what happiness means to you, and only you.

A lot of people are guilty of constantly making happiness a future occurrence by preceding every sentence they say with an “if” and a “when.” These phrases trap happiness in the future. Joy can be attained immediately by anybody, no ifs and buts about it. To make this even more possible, you need to focus on those things that leave you with a powerful feeling of gratitude. This may be your greatest tool because when you begin to focus on what you are grateful for, you can’t help but feel hopeful and excited.

So take time everyday to sit and write about what you are most grateful for. If you become vigilant with this practice, you will notice more and more things to be grateful for. The fact that you are alive or that it’s a sunny day are the small things that you can smile about.

Happiness can be yours now. It is entirely up to you to make the choice to claim it. Just know your worth. Everyone deserves to be happy, no matter what kind of person they were in the past. The point is, you just have to be happy about life in general and stop comparing yourself to others. No one has everything, and there are surely things you have that others don’t. Life is just a big box of wonderful surprises. Though you may go through difficult days, there are still blessings waiting for everyone along the way. Give yourself a chance and start seeing the glass half full. What sets optimists apart from the pessimists is their ability to succeed by simply being thankful for what they have, no matter how small it is or how little it is worth.

Weaving Optimism And Positive Thinking Into Success

People can often be their own worst enemy, especially when they allow their negative feelings to create artificial barriers to achieving their goals, personally and professionally. We see this every day – person A begins talking enthusiastically about a new opportunity and immediately persons B and C shoot the idea down by focusing only on the negative outcomes that could potentially result.

In other cases they allow emotions like anger to cloud their judgment for no other reason than because they take everything that happens too personally. It’s almost as if their egos won’t allow them to miss an opportunity to get upset and start an argument. Coupled with a false sense of indignation they fail to realize that they are actually creating more barriers to resolving whatever the issue may have been in the first place.

While it’s true in nature that opposites attract, in real life nothing could be further from the truth. Positive people tend to draw towards other optimistic people, and of course negative people cluster together like schools of baitfish. The difference between the two groups is that the optimistic ones tend to simply stroll through life knowing that whatever challenges they encounter they will quickly and easily overcome.

A good example of these behaviors is in reviewing two identical technical support requests with diametrically opposite results.

In the first case, the positive customer is experiencing a problem installing a piece of software. Quickly realizing that the problem is beyond their skill level, they call the support hotline confident that resolution to the issue will be forthcoming. They cheerfully and courteously explain the problem they are experiencing and patiently worked with the support staff to correct it, which happens in a mere 10 minutes.

In the second case the negative customer is experiencing a similar problem. Frustrated and angry they call the support hotline and immediately launch into a belligerent tirade about the quality of the product and the company that produced it. While the support staff attempts to help the customer, they quickly become frustrated at the customer’s refusal to provide the needed information.

The customer insists upon escalating problem to a supervisor or manager where the tirade continues. After 45 minutes of arguing with various supervisors and managers and live no resolution in sight, the customer or threatens to sue or file legal complaints and hangs up without resolving the installation problem.

Optimistic people never worried about encountering problems with anything. They understand that things happen, more importantly they also understand that there is a solution out there somewhere. Their goal is to simply resolve the issue as quickly and efficiently as possible, which they know they will be able to do some way, somehow.

It’s for this reason that those who think positively and optimistically are far more likely to be successful in both their business and personal lives. They can’t help but know that everything is going to work out the way they expected to, if not even better.

A Life with a Purpose

Many people live their lives aimlessly. They go through the motions of activities robotically, as if it were simply expected to perform their duties with no questions asked. Then, in time, they find themselves stopping midway, and then asking themselves why they’re doing something that doesn’t make them happy in the first place.

Many eventually question the things that they do in life. Others, unfortunately, still go through life drifting aimlessly for the simple reason that it gives them instant monetary gratification.

Your main purpose in life should be making yourself happy and content. Know that when you work on improving yourself, you will never look back with regret, or worse, with pity for yourself and what you’ve become. You need a mission that fires your innermost passion and inspires you to pursue even further. Without a goal in mind, you simply are going through a form of drudgery that eventually extinguishes your inner fire.

You have to be focused as you single-mindedly pursue the things that make you feel complete. Of course, reaching your goals is not always easy. If it were, then the world should have been completely emancipated from problems. It is a journey where you also have to make a decision on which road to take. Let your conscience guide you because even with dreams, you can never be happy if you live with a heavy heart.

A person’s life is made up of an infinite number of moments. Make these moments count and make sure that even if it is always not filled with laughter, you take something from every experience. Enjoy your relationships and take care of yourself. These are the foundations to any form of life. Who are you when you can’t lean on someone? The people around you define who you are. They will provide you with the support you’ll need during difficult times.

With each moment towards your dream comes careful planning. You need to prepare yourself for the things that may arise during the entire journey. Life is somewhat an expedition where you need to deeply think about the things that are important to you. Otherwise, if you are so careless, you will see everything fade to nothing. To be able to triumph, you need the right kind of attitude. Go for it all the way, or not at all.

When you realize what your innermost desires are, you now have your ultimate purpose in life. Your mission is to perform the tasks to make your wants a reality. It makes life worthwhile when you know you are working towards something. The happiest discovery you will ever make is that your journey reveals to you all the delights and pleasures of life. Savor the small tasks along the way because these add up to something big, something so spectacular. Your mission is to understand things and know that your experiences are there to make you the best person you can be. You can only be your ideal self when you accept what life offers and find ways to deal with it rather than cower from it.

The Need to Follow Your Dreams

Today’s culture dictates that we have to study hard, work hard, and basically prioritize our career over everything else so that we can experience some semblance of happiness. Then society dictates that we need a respectable job to make a decent name for ourselves. We hear this message throughout our lives and it has made a dramatic impact on us all.

Many of us believe we are left with no choice but to jump on the bandwagon and keep on running. We can be likened to hamsters that simply go through the daily monotony with no questions asked. Then, we keep our true dreams locked inside for fear that some people may not believe us or laugh at our absurdity. What price do we pay for conformity? We lose a great part of ourselves simply because we want to fit this ideal mold that everyone thinks is proper.

The good news is, we no longer have to take the road that everyone uses. So many people have lost their jobs in the face of this recent economic downturn. Now is the chance to pursue our dreams, to answer our calling. This inner yearning comes from deep within the core of who we are as a person. Living this dream would bring us a genuine sense of well-being. When we do what we truly enjoy, we live more in the present. We may not make enough money with this type of career, but we enjoy it and live without any regret.

The secret to happiness is to become courageous and follow what we truly want. If we have the talent and the ability to sustain that dream, why not go for it? The world of today glamorizes certain lifestyles and careers. Reality says otherwise, however. We know that things are just different from what we see on television. The key to enjoying life is to stand strong and to not let what others think influence our final decision. This is where our inner strength takes the wheel because we shouldn’t let the views of others affect our search for fulfillment.

We also must bear in mind that following our dream doesn’t mean that we will always enjoy every moment of it. There will be times that we will be required to do things that we do not love. However, in the end, we get what we want. Life in itself is a surprise, and we may find ourselves being thrown a few surprises along the way.

Following our dream does not always mean that we will experience an overall sense of satisfaction, but this is far better than ignoring our inner cravings and putting them off until it never actually happens. Our fantasies may sometimes be outside our comfort zone but we have to learn to cement our decision just to make ourselves truly happy with how our life has turned out.

We must realize the master plan that is in store for each one of us. Though it requires conscious effort, we get to spend the rest of our lives without regret. Why? Because this is what and how it was meant to be. That simple! The seeds have been sown deep in our hearts and minds, and it is our job to reap the benefits of what we planted. By following what we truly desire, not only do we please ourselves, but we are also uplifting the spirit of the entire humanity!

The Significance of Honesty and Integrity

When it comes to winning over the respect of people, honesty plays a major role in our success. Yes, our parents apparently hit the bull’s eye when they said that honesty is the best policy. However, many people mistake candor with tactlessness. Admittedly, there is sometimes a fine line between these two concepts. There are just some situations and people that we can’t agree with, and sometimes, we’re put on the spot when somebody asks for our opinion. Our friends may not mind our being frank because they simply know us better. Unfortunately, there are also people who just won’t be able to understand us. And why should they? Words can really be offensive when used out of context. It is actually up to us to decide how we are able to handle every situation with diplomacy.

It is then important that honesty should come with integrity. When we can’t say anything nice, then we might as well not say anything. To be rightfully honest is to also know how to be aware of the feelings of people. Empathy and a high emotional quotient play a big part here. We, ourselves, do not enjoy getting attacked by people we don’t really know. We have to differentiate right from wrong and know when it is most important to truly tell a person how we feel. Once we get into this sometimes too personal a zone, we have to leave all excess emotional baggage in the backseat for the simple reason that we should have an objective mindset when we talk to people.

The people around us react better to constructive criticism if they have enough sense to realize that we are only there with their best interests at heart, they are more likely open to listening to what we have to say. We also need to take a closer look at ourselves and know if we are the right person to do the job. This is the behavior of a person with a realistic image of himself or herself. We too are not perfect, but we also have to realize whether or not we are in the position to help.

Another question to ask is if our opinions are clouded by the beliefs of other people. If so, then maybe it is best that we walk away. Images are created by people, and they are not universally alike. We unconsciously create them from our experiences. Being honest with how we truly feel provides the means to see the symptoms of our own nature. We start to gain understanding when we also look deep into our very soul.

The principle behind telling the truth is making it possible to get what is an unprejudiced view of the situation. Once we know what our true intentions are and if they are pure, only then can we say that we can be honest. Let us then think with our brains and let our hearts show us the way to a clean and unsullied conscience.

In gist, if we want to become more honest people, we first must look into ourselves, know if it is the right thing to do, and try to handle every situation cautiously. The central concept of honesty is not to hurt other people. In fact, its main purpose is to find ways by which we can help others become the best that they can be.

Heal Your Life and Make it Better

Sometimes, we look back at the most difficult moments in our life and find that there are still some experiences that we have yet to accept. Getting over a situation as not as easy as we think, especially if we’ve been burned badly. A recent divorce have left some men and women unwilling to get into another relationship, a death of a loved one has some denying what actually happened, or a fight with a friend has left people bitter and resentful. Whatever the reason may be, these painful experiences can be traumatic. In fact, some carry the scars all throughout their lives.

Life has a way of revealing its secrets, and as cliché as this sounds, things really do happen for a reason. It’s easy to say when you’re not the one experiencing pain, right? Of course, but then again, we’ve all gone through some sort of hurt at one point or another. And as times passes, we do get over it and see the reasons behind it.

To start healing your life, you must first learn the value of forgiveness. This is a powerful thing because it helps us get past the barriers that hold us back. You never forget the things that have happened to you. The memory of it is ingrained deep within your heart. Forgiveness is not about forgetting as what some people might think. Forgiveness is simply an act of acceptance. Things happened to you, and these have emotionally scarred you. Acknowledge the pain and learn from it. If a person hurt you terribly and doesn’t even show any sign of remorse, know that it is not your job to change that person. Just accept the way he or she is, understand the situation, and walk away, if you have to. After all, you don’t have to be a martyr to become a better human being. What will set you apart will be your ability to move on and not look back.

Your heart is central to your healing. Though you think with your mind, your heart feels the pain. It is there when you’ll know if something is just too unbearable to face. Long for peace in your heart and in your soul. Work at it and surround yourself with love. It is your heart that allows you to live in this world, and it is also that which gives you access to a multitude of options for creating the life you truly want to live. It also helps to bless the people you encounter on your journey because they will be a reflection of the state you are in. They can act as a compass leading you to the thoughts and feelings you need to foster. They will help you as you rise beyond life’s ups and downs.

You have to first understand your feelings before anyone can. Ever met a person who left you confused no matter how you tried to comprehend their personality? These are the people who don’t understand themselves. You can approach life by believing in yourself with no explanation needed. Or you can be scientific and pragmatic, baffled over the things you are unable to explain. Know that healing only comes when there is the willingness to accept. With the gifts that life presents to you, you also must learn to accept the fact that everyone must work hard and overcome hurdles to know the true meaning of happiness.

Overcoming the Fear of Failure

Wouldn’t it be great if we were all mentally tough and that we could take whatever life throws our way? Fear of the unknown is what usually holds us back from doing anything remotely interesting and different.  Usually though, this only takes the backseat to an even bigger fear, and that is fear of failure! Sure we want to discover something so innovative that we leave people in awe, but we also continually ask ourselves ‘what if,’ and that stops us immediately in our tracks.

Life is a game wherein we all take a gamble every so often, but what sets us apart from the winners is our attitude when we get into the game. We simply become too afraid and will settle for mediocrity simply because we do not want to be humiliated. We accept defeat and convince ourselves that the skill is just not in us. We should keep in mind that while negative thoughts create gloom, the energy radiated by having a positive attitude is reflected in our actions.

The same goes to our professional lives.  Some of us go to work, do our job, and basically do everything as a routine of habit. We are far from being satisfied with our careers but we carry on nonetheless. Why? Because that’s what we do and are familiar with. We have other dreams but keep them on the back burner because we don’t know if we have the right abilities and talents. If we do decide to pursue our dreams and do what we are most passionate about, we fear that we aren’t good enough and that we might humiliate ourselves in the end. Our life can become a sham with this attitude, and we definitely have to pursue our innermost desires to have a chance at happiness.

If you have a fear of failure, know that this is not unique to only you. Many other people dread the thought of losing. However, it is important to note that this fear can do more than keep us from being successful. It holds us back from living the kind of life we deserve. Often times, this form of terror develops over a period of time, often triggered by memories of sadness. Because we did fail in the past, we know how it felt when people laughed at us when we fell and couldn’t get up.

The truth is, we are good enough. We may not be talented in some areas, but surely there is something we are excellent at. We need to improve our self esteem and realize that life is all about experimenting. If we fail, then maybe we should look at the process and see what went wrong. Every good scientist knows that they have to come up with a good hypothesis before they test it.

We all have to be that scientist who willingly tries out every theory. The road to success is ridden with bumps, and it is only in trying will we realize which ones should be avoided. If there’s one thing I can assure you, it is the fact that people who keep trying despite their hundreds of failures will triumph a lot sooner than those who don’t give any effort at all.   So, how exactly can we all overcome fear? Just take baby steps but be brave enough to give everything a shot. Those who cop out will be those who will live their lives with great regret.

A Healthy Balance between Work and Family

One of the major issues faced by working parents is that they are unable to properly balance their time. Women in particular feel that they are not able to spend quality time with their children because their jobs demand so much of their time. They need to fulfill their responsibilities at work before they can focus their attention to their family. Though work is an important part of life, the family should also be on top of the list of priorities.

Do you think that risking your family’s happiness is worth the rewards you get from a job well done at work? It is very important that you balance these two aspects of your life. If you can’t focus on both of these things, then you may as well watch the people you love most walk away from you. So how do you keep things running smoothly?

You can achieve balance by setting up time for both. If your family’s basic needs rest solely on your income, you can’t also risk your job. In a case like this, the best you can do is set aside your work when you reach home. Leave work in the office and spend some quality time with your loved ones. After all, it is not the length of time you spend with them that counts, it’s how you spend it. You must have a well thought-out schedule for your family. You can use your spare time wisely. A picnic at the park or a night spent sitting on the couch to watch movies matter a lot. Your partner and your children are likely to be happy if they see you stick to the plan.

A mother in particular plays many roles. She needs to be a wife, friend, and confidant to the people in her house. If you need to hire help just for that extra time with your husband and children, then do so. You probably go through times when you think you can’t manage everything and still do a good job. Don’t fret and give up. All you need to do is also ask for the help of your family. In order for your home to be happy, you must work as a team. Explain your dilemma and seek advice from those involved. That way, everyone can also understand what you are going through.

Balancing career and family doesn’t have to be viewed as an insurmountable feat, it just requires a bit of juggling. Every woman is capable of balancing her time. What helps a lot is for you to plan out your schedule and see which responsibility can be fulfilled at home. Paying the bills and shopping can now be done online. See if this helps. Assign tasks to the other family members as well and make a list of jobs to do around the house. By delegating chores, everyone will also know that their contributions help in making the family happy.

The demands of work and family put a lot of pressure on everyone. You should know that you are not the only member of the family. Seek their help and let them learn the value of collaboration and unity. After all, to attain an ideal family life, each member must work at it.

Dealing with Lifes Disappointments

Life doesn’t always work to our favor. When we encounter setbacks, it’s easy to become discouraged. We suddenly don’t trust ourselves and the people around us. This domino effect leads to the eventual collapse of the different aspects in our lives. The things that have taken us years to build suddenly lost in a blink of an eye. Then, we become immobilized, and then we retreat into this dark shell that brings us further down.

Eventually, we have to come out of this hole and start rebuilding our lives. We’re left with no choice but to do this or else all our financial reserves go down the drain. Quite often the only way out of a situation is to simply trudge go through it. As saddened and disappointed as we can be with the circumstances presented to us, we should decide that every day above the ground is still reason to celebrate. As bad as things can be, nothing is worth dying for.

Failures in some convoluted form are an integral part of life.  We have to go through this to fully appreciate the successes that we have. If we were to become paralyzed and contemptuous, we will only exacerbate the already glum situation. It’s throwing another log to the fire, and this will continue on and on unless we choose to put a stop to it. This vicious cycle of self-imposed ruin is something that we have to overcome. Life is a journey of self-evolvement, and each problem was made to make us stronger and more resilient. We have to simply embrace life to learn how to face adversities. No matter how good or bad the situation may be, they all will eventually end.

Life is all about growth through a variety of experiences. We can choose resistance or we can choose acceptance. The latter allows us to embrace the inherent lessons along the way. There are millions out there who are in the same boat. Everyone has to deal with these same things and we are never alone when we suffer. Let us share the cross that we carry with our friends and ask them to help us during dire times. A burden shared is a burden halved. With this in mind, we have to know that we can be surrounded by love if we allow it. We all must remember that happiness is all about overcoming disappointments. When we ask the help of our loved ones, we also have to know that we shouldn’t hurt them along the way. We have to appreciate what they can offer and not ask for more. Friendship is a two-way thing. As much as we expect them to protect us, we also have to do everything within our power to make life easier for them because they also have responsibilities of their own to fulfill.

Perhaps the most pivotal message about disappointment sometimes is not about us at all. Sometimes the lesson learned is about inspiring others to never give up because there’s nowhere to go but up when we are at the lowest point in our lives.

Craving for More Out of Life

Sometimes, we just can’t seem to be happy with what we have. We criticize ourselves too often and feel inferior because we want what others have. We develop healthy relationships with the people around us, but our relationship with ourselves isn’t quite so good.

The secret to happiness is going easy on yourself. Try not to judge yourself too harshly because you will always find faults in you. These imperfections may be petty, but you will magnify the things wrong with you and end up insecure. It helps to constantly engage in activities you love, surround yourself with people who love you, and look at the blessings in your life.

If there are people who stop you from becoming a better person, you have to think about ending these relationships. You should never allow people to suck your energy and make you feel down. You deserve to reap the rewards of life, and if there is someone who disagrees, then maybe that person wasn’t meant to be your friend.

So how exactly do you get more out of life? The first step is to acknowledge your strengths. Find time to do at least one nice thing for yourself each day. These things don’t have to cost much. The purpose of this is not to spend money on yourself. Instead, it’s just for you to know that you also deserve a reward. Life is very complicated. The fact that we are still able to hope for something is an amazing feat in itself.

Another way to reap the rewards of life is to show kindness towards the people you meet. Think about a time when you demonstrated the act of kindness towards a friend. Didn’t feel good after? Chances are you did. Although at times, being kind can be difficult, especially when you find that agreeing with that person is too hard. You should never forget the golden rule which basically states that you reap what you sow.  If you have generally been a great friend to people, you will also get the same kind of treatment.

Lastly, and most importantly, you just have to keep believing in yourself. When you set your goals, know that you can achieve all of it if you just set your mind to it. Never mind those people who tell you that you can’t do it. Their opinions will only hinder you from achieving your full potential. You have the power to take control of your own life, it’s yours! Make the decision to go after your dreams, even if they seem too distant at the moment. Once the belief is there, you will be able to develop strategies to set you on the journey to make it happen.

So when you wake up each day, start with a positive thought and an open heart. Anything can happen, and life just has too much in store that giving up will be the biggest mistake you’ll ever make. You need a purpose because at the core of this purpose is personal growth. It is only when we allow ourselves to grow that we will get to experience new things. There is more to life that meets the eye, all you need to do is allow these changes to happen.

There are chat rooms in yahoo for psychic people.  Do you sometimes know the answer to a question but don’t know why?  Do you have dreams that come true?  Do you see energy around a persons body that others can’t see?  Do you get images in your head of things that you know you havne’t seen before?  Can you recall events from the distant past that you havne’t seen?  Can you predict what will happen in events that your are part of now?  Like tossing dice.  Do you hear voices that no one else hears?  These are all psychic abilities.  Plus the usual card readers and palm readers use intuative abilities.

The Power of Self-Belief

We’ve all heard of the word affirmation. It seems as if this has been repeated quite more often these days. These are basically positive phrases that are meant to train our minds to visualize and project what we all would want to happen. We need to look into that possible future with optimism because this will somehow come through when we make it a habit. When it is placed side by side with the law of attraction, it is the practice of positive thinking. To put it simply, we must claim our dreams and believe that we are on the way to achieving them.

Our minds work in ways we are always not aware of. Some of these processes overpass the conscious and head straight into the subconscious portion of our brains. The events that occur deep within our brain help us grow if we learn to always look at the positive side of things. We must be careful how we use our mind because it is such a powerful tool. If we are constantly negative about the things that happen to us, this thought process can work against us. What works are continuous affirmations about the things we go through. Simply put, we need to feed our minds by constant thoughts.

What people don’t grasp is that affirmations actually do work. Our minds were built to listen us. If we realistically think about the future, we feel happier because we think about the bright future that we can actually have. Negativity requires more work because we are asking our minds to gather our wits about and settle. If you’ve noticed, people who are more positive tend to have greater success. Because we forget what we don’t think about, we need to continually encourage ourselves as we achieve our dreams one step at a time.

We have the power to change the direction of our lives. We can control where we’re heading if we let only happy thoughts control us. Studies have shown that affirmative beliefs help us achieve what we want. Athletes, for instance, are constantly asked to focus on their skills and hone in on their bright future.  It is the only way to win. When we make that decision to become our very best cheerleader, we will also be challenging our unfavorable experiences. So why hasn’t it worked for some? It is because they move on if they don’t immediately see the results. Some things simply need time to happen.

For things to work, we’ll have to consign ourselves to our plan and do our damndest to see through it long and often enough. If we need to repeat our goals several times a day, we need to make sure that we do so. We can’t phrase things with a negative word because this would mean that our focus is on the sadder part of life. If we give up, it’s all too easy to slip back into the negative frame of mind. The point is, we are probably using these affirmations without us knowing about it. We just need to make sure the message we are telling ourselves is what we really and truly want to hear. And unless we put our heart and soul into it, they will not work. By involving ourselves deeply into it, we will crave for ways that help our better efforts.

The Surprising Secrets to Success

Reaching the pinnacle of your field does not require immense intelligence and a whole lot of cash. Besides talent, getting ahead professionally hinges on certain key qualities. Most of these traits are already in you. Having passion for what you’re doing, a commitment to long-term goals, and the grit to persevere, you’re most likely on your way to success. Of course, these all make perfect sense. Passion keeps you excited about the hard work required, drive makes you aim high, and grit helps you weather the unexpected bumps on the road.

The best thing about these traits is that, simple as they are, they actually trump your level of intelligence and experience when it comes to accomplishing what you want. Stoke your reserves of these qualities and you’re on the road to stardom.

Being psyched to be part of your industry keeps you on course, even on tedious days. But, your passion won’t knock on the door and identify itself. You have to explore every nook and cranny until you find something that calls out to you. Consider your best personality traits and as you brainstorm your options, use your network of friends to help you find the job that best suits you. Just because you already know your calling, it doesn’t necessarily mean that any related job will satisfy you. You can always keep customizing and think about what you look forward to the most. Fill your day with what you like doing the best and you’ll create a job that exhilarates you and, therefore, one that you thrive in.

Settling for the usual timeline won’t get you your dream job. People who succeed are those who put in the work to be the best and to be noticed. Think of your job as ambition, one that you would like to succeed you. One way to get ahead is to take on new responsibilities. Not only are you bettering yourself, but you’re also signaling to your bosses that you want to improve. Just make sure you can handle the extra tasks, and do them to get involved, not to expect any form of promotion. Seek out new challenges so you can conquer new career territories.

Grittiness does not require you to look tough. It’s actually another world for resilience. A gritty person develops thick skin and considers every input valuable, even when it points to a weakness. Hearing constructive criticism can be rough, but it’s crucial if you want to get ahead. The better you become at processing this kind of feedback, the faster you’ll improve your skills. If this is difficult for you, ask a friend what you need to work on. Somehow, information is easier to digest when it comes from someone close to you. Even when a task is a staggering success, always ask how you can do it better the next time around. This trains you to be more open for improvement. When you do receive a critique that upsets you, remember that it’s just someone else’s opinion. Being innovative means that not all your ideas will be liked, but the ones that are accepted are sure to knock everyone’s socks off.

The Power of Self-Belief

A wise person once declared that it’s not who you are that holds you back, it’s who you think you’re not. You need to trust in your own abilities so that you can go beyond what is expected of you. If this means that you have to take risks, then so be it. Many people don’t get to see what they are really capable of because they are scared of committing mistakes. But isn’t that a part of life? No one is exempted from making errors. These are sometimes there to teach you more about life. If you saved yourself from doing something wrong, you can never survive in the real world.

To become a truly successful person, you need to trust in yourself first. You go through rough patches every so often, and this is when you know how strong you actually are. Along the way, you encounter potholes and barriers. You may even fall several times. Nonetheless, you simply need to push yourself up with both arms every time this happens. Each fall teaches you how to balance yourself better the next time it happens.

With the lessons learned, you have gained new knowledge for future battles. The world is made up of two kinds of people: winners and losers. The major difference between these two is not the number of achievements they’ve had. The winners are those who know how to lose. To see each defeat as only a delay because nothing stops them from getting what they want in the very end. That is what matters most. If you don’t easily get discouraged, you know that you will go further than those who let failures dictate their actions.

What makes you a success is your tenacity. You constantly try to channel all your talents to fulfilling your goals. While there may be a few surprises along the way, you also know that you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself. You cannot control every aspect in your life. You meet people that may just bring you down or a recent economic crisis has caused you your job. These things aren’t your fault. But then again, you also shouldn’t blame the others for it. The important thing now is to focus on what needs to be done. A wise move would be to have a backup plan for all your major decisions. Learn to expect the unexpected and always have something to fall back on.

Believe in yourself because winners just don’t know how to quit. Success sometimes happens with sometimes a major sacrifice from you. Winners work harder than everyone else. In fact, it takes extra effort to reach the pinnacle. If this were easy, everyone would have been successful by now. See what is in you and try to hone your skills and talents as much as possible. Adopt the can-do attitude. Things may not be exactly what you wanted, but the point here is that you are trying. As long as there is some effort from you, you will be a lot closer to winning than those who don’t do anything at all.

Creating a Better and Brighter Future

Self-esteem is all about knowing what you can do while being aware of the people around you. Tweak your attitude and know that there is always something you can do right now. While you may have been used to doing things on your own, you also need to realize that you need your friends and family for when things don’t work your way. You need to know that you have people to lean on when you are lost or defeated. Communication plays a big part here because it lets other people realize just what kind of person you are while you also know who will be there for you through thick and thin. There are things that you cannot control and it is sometimes being at the right place at the right time.

You deserve to enjoy the fruits of your labor but the other things in your life can’t wait for you forever. You end up wanting to reach success immediately and that there is no single right way to live. So, you end up doing the bigger things right away and delay doing those that may actually matter more in the end. Yes, you do deserve to treat and pamper yourself after all the hard work you’ve put in. Prioritize what you first need to do to stay successful in the long run. Beware of quick fixes because you may not think about the long haul if you keep working this way. Cultivate self-knowledge and learn to understand your talents better rather than just rushing into things. This means that aside from changing your habits, you also need to change your perspective. Maybe to make things work for you, you also need to adjust your attitude and learn to be happy with what you have, at least for now.

The economy hasn’t also helped in the situation. Because everyone is going through some form of difficulty, this does not mean that you play the role of the victim. The world is not conspiring against you and making life more difficult to live. Expect more out of life but practice patience because a nice life does not come by easily. When you go to work, you don’t get a raise for every job well done. Corporations need to save up too in order for them to survive. It’s a cut-throat world out there and you will find yourself competing with equally talented people. While you’ve been praised a lot for your talents, you don’t automatically get to the top with words. While times are definitely more challenging, you can also do something to make life easier. It’s all about acting on it and learning adapt to whatever is given to you.

Yes, you can still dream big. But you will only lose hope if you constantly moan and complain about your sad situation. Chances are, most people are getting less than what they want. Once you put your position into proper context, you will realize that you also have a lot of things working for you. Be resourceful and plan how you can earn some extra dough. But while you’re not there, you also need to realize the value of hard work.

Reclaim the Person You Once Were

Look back and reminisce how you were as a child. Chances are, you felt carefree, you focused primarily on yourself, and you rarely gave your thoughts and actions a second glance. The whole point was to have fun, explore, and discover the world around you. People just leave more than they ought to once they move into adolescence and adulthood. Maybe it’s time to reclaim at least a part of that child and temper it with some hard-won wisdom that you attained through experience.

Girls, in particular, have a more difficult time getting back some of their childlike qualities. There are so many reasons why they’ve lost some of their inner selves as they mature. During adolescence, girls somehow start to believe that they need to be effortlessly perfect. They feel pressured to fit in socially and do well in school. While these things are a natural part of growing up, you sometimes sacrifice a bit of who you are when you achieve these goals. Women immediately assume that they need to be people-pleasers so they start to conform to what they believe people want them to be. The urge to conform can even extend physically. You spend more time worrying about your appearance instead of enjoying your favorite hobby. You wanted to be well-liked so you took less risks that could’ve made you stand out in a sea of nameless faces.

As a child, you can devote hours to dreaming and doing things just because you enjoy doing them. But as life accelerates, you get busy. It soon becomes second-nature to neglect the things that truly make you happy. The devil-may-care attitude gets lost, and this is actually quite sad. That deeper sense of who you truly are comes in handy as an adult. This helps get you what you truly want by heightening your feelings of joy. Of course, this does not suggest that you completely go back to your childish ways. This is actually more about realizing what’s missing, bringing back some of the facets to your personality, and using them to your own advantage.

Define what’s missing by taking a simple look back at the person you once were and comparing her to who you are right now. Pay attention to the things that you truly miss and translate them into your adult world. Don’t just rely on your memory. Mementos help a lot because childhood pictures and journals give you tangible proofs of your old self. Hook up with old pals as well. Who better to bond with than the people who saw you through your most awkward phases in life? They will always remember you as a kid who had done memorable things. When you get to see all these, you’ll soon realize what you were looking for in the first place.

It’s time to reclaim your old self and stop worrying about the expectations of other people. Now is the time to focus on what you want so that you live your life the best way you know how. You are the only person who can best say what is truly good for you.

The Importance of Self-Appreciation

You must have encountered self-loving girls who seem to get everything they want in life. It seems as if these lucky lots are privy to some special secret that sets them above the rest. So, what exactly makes you a standout? At the very core of these successful individuals are healthy amounts of self-appreciation and confidence. These help the look, feel, and do well. Confidence is a natural life force designed to overcome trying times and create what you want to happen. Unfortunately, not everyone has enough of this to strut her stuff. Self-doubt gets the best of many supposedly fearless women, letting them helplessly wallow in criticizing and blaming themselves and creating the sort of shame that impedes confidence.

There may be a lot about yourself that you absolutely loathe. In fact, you think it would be such a relief if you could do without self-reflection for the time being. You blame your life’s letdowns on the fact that you don’t look the part of a winner. You know that you look decent enough but are also aware that you could use bits of improvement here and there. You are well aware that confidence can inspire you to look and feel better. All you need is to set your mind on feeling good about everything that’s you. Just remember that while you’re working on loving yourself, you also need to have your feet firmly planted on the ground.

A self-depreciating attitude is destructive because it eats away your true potential. Since confidence builds its foundation n a positive view of the self, revamping your perspective is vital in getting you the things you want and deserve. You can only win if you truly know that you deserve the best and that you are good enough just the way you are. To believe in yourself good enough to go for your goals means that you are absolutely ready to take the necessary action. And, keep in mind that you deserve the fabulous things you want. When you are spending too much time trying to be good enough for something or someone else, you are affirming that you don’t deserve to achieve your goals just yet and that you can only go for what you want when you are more perfect than you are. And the worst part is, you think that day may never come.

Quit the bad rap and it’s time to leap over hurdles that hinder you from achieving it first. First, quiet down that inner critic because having a negative image will inhibit you from discovering just how beautiful you are inside. Don’t feel helpless just because you’ve always thought of yourself to be a certain way. Giving up self-criticism is very difficult at first because it’s a habit, after all. Just know that your beliefs aren’t necessarily true. They aren’t facts and that they are only what you choose to believe. You can change your attitude so that you could actually feel confident and amazing. Just take time to know your strengths and hone them so that they shine brighter than ever.

Taking Care of Your Relationships

As you step out into the world and try to live your life the best way you know how, you will encounter people from different walks in life. You establish relationships with those you meet and while some may experience a few bumps along the way, you need to learn to navigate through them smoothly. You need to learn from your experiences and try to overcome all your weaknesses or else all your relationships will go down the drain. No matter how far along the highway you’ve gone, fundamental rules of the road come into play here. Putting life’s lessons into practice isn’t always easy but it is critical. If you play by the rules, you’ll make your friendships stronger and better than ever.

Build up your balance with the people close to you. Frustrations and annoyances can douse the warmth in any friendship. Make it your priority to always look at the brighter side of life and consider the things that come out of your mouth. Do more on the positives and less of the negatives. In fact, it’s the little acts of kindness that matter in the end. Just make sure that the things that come out of your mouth are heartfelt and specific. Smile and make eye contact when you deliver the compliment. That way, they will immediately be sure of your sincerity. Once you take this approach, you’ll realize that you know what tickles their fancy. It won’t be long before they get to appreciate the small things that you do for them. Revel in each of your friend’s best qualities and let the inconsequential faults slide. After all, no one was built perfectly, and neither were you.

It’s tempting to blame other people when you are frustrated or angry. It’s a short hop to seeing someone as the one who must change in order for the relationship to get better. That’s simply a cop-out because trying to improve someone else puts them in a defensive role and casts you in a dreary role. The result? Nothing gets done and not much has changed. When nobody takes responsibility for the situation, things could even get worse. Making the other person the bad guy makes them believe that you’re overlooking all their good qualities in the long run. The best solution would be change yourself. When you address your own flaws and seek the best in others, that’s when the magic happens because optimism increases a hundredfold. People just feel better when they don’t feel chastised. You, in turn, will feel motivated to change in ways that lead to greater joy in your life.

Next time a friend does something annoying, know that their intentions are mostly good even when the execution is far from being perfect. If a misunderstanding arises, inject some gentle humor into the situation and the situation so you can soften the blow. Most fights don’t have to be as intense as they area and you need to pay closer attention to what they are song as well. Solve problems and issues constructively so that respect is maintained all throughout.

Yoga and Meditation for a Better You

People develop habits that they wished they never had. You even have traits about you that you can actually be ashamed of. No one is perfect, but it never hurts to strive for perfection. Yes, you may have something in you that you absolutely detest. Sometimes, your habits stop you from being the best you truly can be. The harder you try to resist, the more stressed you become. And the more stressed you are, the more that habit persists. It’s an irony at its most cruel form, and you need to step out of that vicious cycle. If these habits hinder you from becoming better people, then you must do something about it immediately while you still can. Life is too short to spend every waking moment of it in regret.

You need to make the most of what you have and this can be done with meditation. You will be able to look at your issues with a more objective eye. When you see things with depth and clarity, you will be able to see what you could have missed and how you could better maneuver your path to get to your ultimate goal. Of course, it also helps to focus on only one behavior at a time. After all, breaking a habit is challenging in itself, and if you try to multitask and handle several things at once, the method may be close to impossible. You need to give attention clearly on the one you choose to work on. To have a better perspective on things, you could actually write down a detailed plan of action.

As each bad habit is successfully removed, you need to find ways to celebrate and congratulate yourself. Of course you will encounter difficulties along the way, but you need to clear the path. Instead of giving up, you can actually look for a way around the situation. Meditation helps a lot in making you see everything in a better light. To mull over things, you need to quiet your inner mind. It is important that you remove yourself from the clutter and allow your body to relax.

Calm can be achieved when you focus on each group of muscles a step at a time. It might be helpful if you do this from head to foot or the other way around. Of course, if you did prefer to do something else, it’s all up to you. Meditation is all about personalizing the steps to make it work for you. The most important thing would be to make sure that you have a clear method set during the actual exercise. Once you’ve calmed your limbs and body, you can then visualize what you want. Finally set yourself free from that certain habit. There is a path you’re destined to pursue, and you’ll soon discover that each path offers a unique experience. It’s now up to you how you want to traipse through the journey.

The path you choose symbolize the decisions you will be making. This narrowing of choices is caused by your need to fine-tune so that you are able to release old habits and say goodbye to your old self. It takes courage to press forward.

The Magic of Self-Appreciation

Perhaps you think that your face is too round or you’re not quite smart enough, but you shouldn’t let these things get you down. Celebrate your uniqueness and be proud of what you were born with. Of course, this isn’t to say that you shouldn’t do anything about it and that you just learn to leave the things you don’t like. Rather than sulking, be proactive about change, but while you’re a work in progress, you can start feeling good of the fact that you’re finally taking control of your life.

Believe that you can achieve and never lose hope. It doesn’t matter if you may not be the brightest bulb in the Christmas tree or if you have the most difficult time running. There are still a lot of things you can do that other people can’t. There are some things that are second-nature to you and while others put all their efforts into doing it, that ability just comes out naturally for you. So, have faith in your talents and trust that they’ll be put to good use some day. See yourself as an individual who is courageous, capable, and decisive. You have the power and the inner resources to mold and shape the course of what could be the best life that you live.

Stop putting the blame on yourself and on others as well. When something unfavorable happens to you, blaming yourself is the last thing you’ll ever want to do or you should do. So what if you lost your job? Others are exactly in the same boat. The most important element in self-esteem is your perception. The same circumstances produce different reactions depending on that individual’s level of self-esteem. So, see this supposedly negative glitch as a learning experience that will help you move forward sooner. Plus, you won’t achieve much when you keep pointing a finger on yourself or on the people around you. It’s simply unhealthy and that kind of attitude will make you fall eventually.

Knock out negativity and try to live life seeing the silver lining behind every dark cloud. Sure, there will always be some people who’ll say bad things or talk about you when you’re not around, by you shouldn’t even give these people your time of day. Surround yourself with true friends, people who tell you immediately what went wrong, and who’ll say it to your face because they just want what’s best for you. Loving yourself means knowing how great you are and not letting any person, any place, or anything ever get in the way of that. As long as you know that you’re doing what is right and you’re not hurting anyone, then by all means, let your true self shine brighter than ever.

Sometimes, tooting your own horn is a savvy move. When done in a subtle way, you’ll project confidence and seem extra attractive. So, the next time you go out, put the spotlight on you by showing pride in anything you talk about. People are drawn to those who are genuine and who take ownership of their talents. Be true to yourself and don’t forget to also make people feel good about who they are.

Enjoying Your Job and Your Life

Pursuing a career doesn’t mean having to choose your job over your life. If you know how to strike a balance between work and your personal life, then you won’t have to pick one over the other. To be your best in both, however, it’s advisable to develop a system that works for you. Your ability to manage time is really one of the top two causes of success or failure in your life. What can you do to pave your way to success? Start a commitment notebook for your tasks. This way, it becomes easier to track your to-do lists and deadlines. Plus, you can even log in your personal goals you can incorporate into your work schedule, like a fitness regimen you’ve been dying to try for instance. When you see your tasks laid out like that, balancing a fabulous life and a stellar career will be a breeze. It helps to define the importance of the different aspects of your life so that you know what you can focus on. A true successful individual will keep doing things that matter.

Of course, you will encounter stress along the way. Say no to stress-eating. Sit up straight at all times because slouching decreases your body’s oxygen intake, which eventually drains you of energy. Moreover, poor posture makes you develop chronic back and neck pains. Deal whatever it is you’re faced with by holding your head high. Flexibility and multitasking are things successful people do because of either socialization or nature.

More importantly, know the value of laughter. This is a foolproof stress buster. Sharing your humor with others eases up any awkwardness or pressure brought on by work. Say something silly or crack a joke because sillier can sometimes be better. If you’re not comfortable delivering one face-to-face, send it via email. To avoid blurting out inappropriate remarks, talk with your friends and colleagues. You will soon get to know them well enough to understand which things they’re not comfortable talking about or making fun of.

You have to know that you have a purpose in life. Working towards this purpose at a gradual but steady pace will keep you hopeful even during your darkest moments. Take things lightly but have a sense of responsibility. This should keep your smile on despite difficulties. It is innate in a person to know what their purpose is, they just need time to soul search and realize what needs to be done. When you follow what you have been meant to do, you will live in harmony with the rest of the world.

The balance you are seeking should already be found within. It just needs to be rediscovered and unearthed. Embrace what you have right now and celebrate what is yet to come. Remember, you are all capable of great things. Fear limits what you can achieve and you must remove this from your heart. Remember, your psyche knows no boundaries, so live a little but always remember that you also have to be responsible about the things you do.

Enjoying Your Job and Your Life

Pursuing a career doesn’t mean having to choose your job over your life. If you know how to strike a balance between work and your personal life, then you won’t have to pick one over the other. To be your best in both, however, it’s advisable to develop a system that works for you. Your ability to manage time is really one of the top two causes of success or failure in your life. What can you do to pave your way to success? Start a commitment notebook for your tasks. This way, it becomes easier to track your to-do lists and deadlines. Plus, you can even log in your personal goals you can incorporate into your work schedule, like a fitness regimen you’ve been dying to try for instance. When you see your tasks laid out like that, balancing a fabulous life and a stellar career will be a breeze. It helps to define the importance of the different aspects of your life so that you know what you can focus on. A true successful individual will keep doing things that matter.

Of course, you will encounter stress along the way. Say no to stress-eating. Sit up straight at all times because slouching decreases your body’s oxygen intake, which eventually drains you of energy. Moreover, poor posture makes you develop chronic back and neck pains. Deal whatever it is you’re faced with by holding your head high. Flexibility and multitasking are things successful people do because of either socialization or nature.

More importantly, know the value of laughter. This is a foolproof stress buster. Sharing your humor with others eases up any awkwardness or pressure brought on by work. Say something silly or crack a joke because sillier can sometimes be better. If you’re not comfortable delivering one face-to-face, send it via email. To avoid blurting out inappropriate remarks, talk with your friends and colleagues. You will soon get to know them well enough to understand which things they’re not comfortable talking about or making fun of.

You have to know that you have a purpose in life. Working towards this purpose at a gradual but steady pace will keep you hopeful even during your darkest moments. Take things lightly but have a sense of responsibility. This should keep your smile on despite difficulties. It is innate in a person to know what their purpose is, they just need time to soul search and realize what needs to be done. When you follow what you have been meant to do, you will live in harmony with the rest of the world.

The balance you are seeking should already be found within. It just needs to be rediscovered and unearthed. Embrace what you have right now and celebrate what is yet to come. Remember, you are all capable of great things. Fear limits what you can achieve and you must remove this from your heart. Remember, your psyche knows no boundaries, so live a little but always remember that you also have to be responsible about the things you do.

Staying Away from Stress

Carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders is never a pleasant feeling, however common it may seem. With the very busy lives people lead, people can’t help but feel that there aren’t enough hours during a day, and that if we could extend an hour or two each day, that’s only when we can cover all our priorities. We all can honestly say that the overwhelming feeling of having too many things to do is, at some point, our own doing.

When it comes to work, you have to ask yourselves if it’s all worth it, if the ultimate destination to your very own line to a better tomorrow. If your efforts bring a promise of a better future for you, then by all means, push yourself forward. Giving up is probably one of the biggest mistakes you can ever make when you strive to win. Every trial surpassed is a step closer to the end. Now, if you’ve made up your mind about going forward and overcoming all the hurdles, you need to do the following:

1. Focus on what needs to be done. With the amount of work you still have to do, you need to know which task is more imperative.
2. Break down your schedule and allot some time for each of the task. This applies to the smaller tasks. While you cannot, altogether, let go of and forget about the trivial matters, you only need to give a fraction of the overall time completing the secondary chores.
3. Work on eliminating clutter because if you find yourself working in a chaotic environment, you will soon see that you also become less productive. Clutter is distracting, and if you need to clear the space before starting anything, do it. In the end, you can concentrate better and finish your work faster.
4. Start setting goals so that you don’t drift through life not knowing where you’re exactly headed. Goals give you the energy that you need to complete what needs to be done. Attaining your objectives will make you happy, and one way to get to this happy place is by working on it.
5. Learn the value of focus. It helps to set up a corner in your house where there are fewer distractions. Don’t give in to temptation and position your work station beside the television. Be firm about your schedule as much as possible.
6. Know when to reward yourself to give you the willpower to push further.
7. Lastly, know when to ask for help. Seek the advice of people who know and understand your situation.

If you continue to stress about everything, your health is bound to go downhill. It’s not a choice between your job and health.  It’s a matter of knowing how to balance, of knowing when to say no. If the amount of work reaches the point wherein your health and relationships are affected, it’s high time to do some rethinking. Plan what you need and let go of the things that take too much of you. Life is a all about what you do with the choices you have available.

Grace under Fire

There’s really no way you can avoid life’s little mishaps, but you can keep your cool when the unexpected happens. You just need tips on what you can do. So, the next time you find yourself in a sticky situation, take a chill pill and find time to relax. There’s no reason to freak out or throw a tantrum. In fact, you could even make things worse for you if you give out the wrong reaction.

First of all, you need to put up a good and brave front. So, you fell on your way to the office or your dress got snagged just when you’re about to step out of the car and go to the party. People aren’t going to form impressions solely on your faux pas. It’s the way you present yourself overall that they’ll pay attention to and remember. Your face, the way you smile, your hair, and basically, the way you look are just the priming coat. This is but the background upon which all the other qualities are imposed. It’s important to work on the way you feel and carry yourself when the situation doesn’t necessarily turn out to your advantage.

Remember to always keep your cool as well. You won’t be able to resolve anything by buckling down under uncomfortable situations. Instead, practice grace under pressure and keep your composure. You form better lasting impressions when you remain calm all throughout. Grace may be a little too difficult to define, but you’ll definitely know it when you see it. It’s a habit of mind that prizes calm and self-assurance over impulsiveness. You’ll be able to assess situations better with a clear head and controlled emotions. While this isn’t to say that you need to stop how you feel, you also have to know that there’s a time and place for everything. And rather than sinking down to the level of those who try to pull you down, you can rise about the sticky situation by walking away.

The people who’ve come out triumphant in battles are those who have successfully infiltrated the enemy’s mind and emotion. It is necessary that you also see things from a different perspective, from the other person’s point of view. If the stitch you’re in involves other people, you’ll know what’s better for the majority if you put yourself in their shoes, if you try to understand why they did such a thing. While the stress and pressure of daily life make it seem hard to accomplish more than the task at hand, by stopping to think of others, a person is able to maintain perspective. By being just a little bit selfless, you’ll be able to make more informed decisions and earn the respect of your peers.

Remember, you become an even better person if you look before you leap. Unwanted circumstances happen to everyone, and if others come out of it looking poised and calm, you should be able to do the same. After all, problems aren’t a new issue, especially in this day and age.

Enjoying Your Job and Your Life

Pursuing a career doesn’t mean having to choose your job over your life. If you know how to strike a balance between work and your personal life, then you won’t have to pick one over the other. To be your best in both, however, it’s advisable to develop a system that works for you. Your ability to manage time is really one of the top two causes of success or failure in your life. What can you do to pave your way to success? Start a commitment notebook for your tasks. This way, it becomes easier to track your to-do lists and deadlines. Plus, you can even log in your personal goals you can incorporate into your work schedule, like a fitness regimen you’ve been dying to try for instance. When you see your tasks laid out like that, balancing a fabulous life and a stellar career will be a breeze. It helps to define the importance of the different aspects of your life so that you know what you can focus on. A true successful individual will keep doing things that matter.

Of course, you will encounter stress along the way. Say no to stress-eating. Sit up straight at all times because slouching decreases your body’s oxygen intake, which eventually drains you of energy. Moreover, poor posture makes you develop chronic back and neck pains. Deal whatever it is you’re faced with by holding your head high. Flexibility and multitasking are things successful people do because of either socialization or nature.

More importantly, know the value of laughter. This is a foolproof stress buster. Sharing your humor with others eases up any awkwardness or pressure brought on by work. Say something silly or crack a joke because sillier can sometimes be better. If you’re not comfortable delivering one face-to-face, send it via email. To avoid blurting out inappropriate remarks, talk with your friends and colleagues. You will soon get to know them well enough to understand which things they’re not comfortable talking about or making fun of.

You have to know that you have a purpose in life. Working towards this purpose at a gradual but steady pace will keep you hopeful even during your darkest moments. Take things lightly but have a sense of responsibility. This should keep your smile on despite difficulties. It is innate in a person to know what their purpose is, they just need time to soul search and realize what needs to be done. When you follow what you have been meant to do, you will live in harmony with the rest of the world.

The balance you are seeking should already be found within. It just needs to be rediscovered and unearthed. Embrace what you have right now and celebrate what is yet to come. Remember, you are all capable of great things. Fear limits what you can achieve and you must remove this from your heart. Remember, your psyche knows no boundaries, so live a little but always remember that you also have to be responsible about the things you do.

Time to Do What You Want

You work yourself to the bone that you don’t even have time to relax and do the things you want to do. With the very busy world that you live in, quality time doesn’t come as easily. If you are like many of the working class dogs, you go without enough rest for months at a time. Sadly, people have forgotten to take care of themselves. They just keep working and don’t realize that their bodies are screaming for some break. They find that finishing a task is more imperative than giving themselves a moment’s breather. They continue to trudge through life, until one day, they simply collapse and break down.

While hard work and determination is a good thing, you also need to know when to step back and breathe. Success can only be attained if there is a balance in your life. You have to know when to say enough because your mind needs to rest. You need to be fully aware when life throws you a curve ball. If your mind is tired and overworked, you may not think straight, or even remember anything. Everything has simply flown out the window, and everything you’ve worked hard for could fly out the window along with it.

If there’s one way to enjoy life, you should know that you need to rest. You do need to fulfill all our responsibilities, but to fulfill them efficiently, you need to have the energy. You have been blessed with friends and family. Give yourself some time to spend it with them so that your relationships can serve as your pillar of strength. No one wants to be alone. Be there for your loved ones and leave work where it should stay: at the office. Quality time means that you’re present through and through.

So, how do you actually get to enjoy our spare time? First, you need to inform everyone at work so that they will know not to bother you. Finish what needs to be done and keep the pending items safe in a drawer. Write down your to-do list that you can attend to when you get back. Your friends, family and loved ones are just as important as your work, so give yourself time to reflect on your life and work out ways in which you can balance everything. Don’t forget to keep yourself surrounded with friends during your spare time to lessen the chances of thinking about your responsibilities.

The secret to a well-balanced life lies in organization. You have to allot time for everything. If this sounds too hard, you need to learn when to ask for help should things stop working the way you want them to. You are never alone, and you have people you can count on as long as you also know that you are also there for them. Your friends are there to help you rejuvenate your soul and keep you from breaking down. Life just seems less tough when you aren’t alone going through it. Remember, as you enjoy your spare time, you need not feel guilty. You are just enjoying life and you are giving yourself a chance to recharge and bring back some of the enthusiasm.

Letting Go

When something ends unexpectedly, be it a relationship or a job, it’s natural to seek an explanation and crave for a coherence of thought. With it comes the most important step of all: closure. A lot of people know this from experience. Sometimes, people could cut you off completely from their lives, and this experience could leave you devastated. Years later, you may still be wondering if you should have mended these broken relationships. You may want to tie up loose ends because you have this irrational fear that letting something go means losing control. Free your thoughts about these people you’ve lost. Just seek out great Advice when you need to come to terms with uncertainty.

It helps to steal a pearl of wisdom. Often, you can’t move on because you haven’t learned yet what you’re supposed to from a difficult situation. After you contemplate on whether you’ve gained some insight from your suffering, you may actually have a clearer sense of what you need and what you don’t from your circle of friends. Right now, you could do less with capriciousness and more with support from people who truly care about you.

Talk yourself out of the gloom and depression. Jot down all the reasons you should stop brooding, then circle the most convincing one for you. The best argument would be: you need to invest your energy in people who are truly there for you. Fleeting relationships don’t amount to much, and as passionate and fun as they are, these are only temporary and are therefore not worth your energy. Repeat the statement to yourself if you start to stew. It might be difficult at first, but when you constantly tell yourself what ought to be done, you’ll actually start to believe in it.

Do a slow fade when it comes to getting over a lost relationship. Look at it as kicking a smoking habit. Quitting cold turkey may just be too much for some and may, in fact, be futile. When painful feelings inevitably arise, think of the emotions as a song on the radio and turn the volume down low. It’s not about forcing the feelings away but acknowledging them, then shifting your focus to something more productive. Cry it out if you must, but give yourself a time limit. As soon as you’ve let it all go, pick yourself up and force yourself to move on. If you don’t pick up the pieces of your life, you’re never going to get anywhere.

If you must, write it all down. Express yourself on paper, then destroy the evidence. You will send yourself the message that you’ve accepted the situation. You may realize that you actually have the capacity to forgive, and that feeling can be more liberating than you can ever expect. It’s time to make your life better simply because you owe it to yourself to do something worthwhile. It’s not about pride when it comes to moving on, but more on the fact that you should love yourself before anything or anyone else.

Ways to Leave Stress BehindYou need to learn to disengage from life’s to-do list and reclaim the carefree attitude you had as a kid. Think of your new hobbies as your Zen commandments. Vacations used to signal a time for a well-deserved reprieve from life’s rigors. Par for the time: lazy afternoons at the beach, abbreviated time for responsibilities, and long breaks away from the daily grind. This year, though, you might be working extra hours and staying closer to home to save some cash. But there are still plenty of ways to relax and rejuvenate.The key is to learn how to disengage from daily stress. When you’re taking fewer days off, it’s especially important to find ways to unwind during the downtime you have. Squashing stress isn’t just good for your sanity, it’s also good for your physical health. Stress has been linked to every major illness, including heart disease, cancer, and depression. Going nonstop day in and day out takes a toll on the entire body. Learning to apply a vacation mentality to your daily life can put you back on your game. Know what will help you reach a state of blissful detachment, no matter where you are or how many days off you can swing.Experts say that people have become obsessed with always being on that they’ve lost the ability to turn themselves off. And that can pile up on stress. Just because you own a PDA doesn’t mean that it has to be on all the time. Each night, block at least 30 minutes for email. When the time’s up, turn off the device and put it out of sight. Just don’t schedule your catch-up session right before bed. Hitting the sack with work on your brain makes it tough to transition into sleep mode, so put the kibosh on all business-related correspondence at least an hour before turning in.In the same way, a pre-bedtime ritual puts you in the mood for sleep, a pre-downtime routine helps you get in the mood for relaxation. As soon as you arrive home, shed whatever reminds you of work: stash your bag out of sight and kick off your heels. Changing your outfit can change your mindset instantly. Next, do something that offers a change of pace. If you’re a desk drone, head outside for a run or swim. If you’ve been on your feet all day, ease into a warm bath. Soon, you’ll feel yourself mentally drifting away from what stresses you out.Just hanging at home has its perks. You still get the mental distance you need from the office, and without the crowds, airports, and frantic souvenir shopping, you can truly relax. Just know that you have to treat your time out like a real vacation. Keep all those tedious do-it-yourself projects on hold for however long you’ve decided to unwind. Go to bed later and get up later. If you usually low through the morning paper, lounge around and read a book in your patio. Even though the scenery is the same, you’re free to switch up your daily groove however you want to.

Enjoying Your Job and Your Life

Pursuing a career doesn’t mean having to choose your job over your life. If you know how to strike a balance between work and your personal life, then you won’t have to pick one over the other. To be your best in both, however, it’s advisable to develop a system that works for you. Your ability to manage time is really one of the top two causes of success or failure in your life. What can you do to pave your way to success? Start a commitment notebook for your tasks. This way, it becomes easier to track your to-do lists and deadlines. Plus, you can even log in your personal goals you can incorporate into your work schedule, like a fitness regimen you’ve been dying to try for instance. When you see your tasks laid out like that, balancing a fabulous life and a stellar career will be a breeze. It helps to define the importance of the different aspects of your life so that you know what you can focus on. A true successful individual will keep doing things that matter.

Of course, you will encounter stress along the way. Say no to stress-eating. Sit up straight at all times because slouching decreases your body’s oxygen intake, which eventually drains you of energy. Moreover, poor posture makes you develop chronic back and neck pains. Deal whatever it is you’re faced with by holding your head high. Flexibility and multitasking are things successful people do because of either socialization or nature.

More importantly, know the value of laughter. This is a foolproof stress buster. Sharing your humor with others eases up any awkwardness or pressure brought on by work. Say something silly or crack a joke because sillier can sometimes be better. If you’re not comfortable delivering one face-to-face, send it via email. To avoid blurting out inappropriate remarks, talk with your friends and colleagues. You will soon get to know them well enough to understand which things they’re not comfortable talking about or making fun of.

You have to know that you have a purpose in life. Working towards this purpose at a gradual but steady pace will keep you hopeful even during your darkest moments. Take things lightly but have a sense of responsibility. This should keep your smile on despite difficulties. It is innate in a person to know what their purpose is, they just need time to soul search and realize what needs to be done. When you follow what you have been meant to do, you will live in harmony with the rest of the world.

The balance you are seeking should already be found within. It just needs to be rediscovered and unearthed. Embrace what you have right now and celebrate what is yet to come. Remember, you are all capable of great things. Fear limits what you can achieve and you must remove this from your heart. Remember, your psyche knows no boundaries, so live a little but always remember that you also have to be responsible about the things you do.

The Value of Healing and Friendships

Physical injuries are something you will notice immediately. While these may be excruciatingly painful, it can easily be treated by doctors. Emotional injuries, in a way, tend to run deeper and can be more painful. They keep themselves tucked in your subconscious mind and stay there for a very long time. While it is something you can mask from others, it is also not as easy to deal with. Treating it requires a different touch altogether and sometimes a whole lot of patience. At some point, most of us have, been hurt in one way or another.  The forms of remedy for bodily wounds are fairly straightforward and uncomplicated.

The emotional scarring, on the other hand, takes place in your minds and in your hearts. These can’t immediately be addressed. You choose to hide them in the darkest recesses of your minds. This is what many call denial. Although many of you know that it’s best to deal with the issues, you often find yourselves feeling helpless, not capable to free yourselves from the chains that burden you. The more you try to distance yourself, the closer it seems to go to you.

To get over the hurts and issues, you need to face it and deal with it. You often lack the ability to understand the true significance of coping. When you face these problems, only then can you understand the reasons behind it. Your experiences sometimes tell us to have expectations that are not essentially precise.  We live in this small box and refuse to see anything beyond what is real to us. At the very heart of healing is experiencing. It is being able to live in the moment of suffering rather than locking yourselves away from the rest of the world.

There are so many ways to cope with problems, and some of them may be unhealthy. While alcohol numbs the pain, you are also not doing anything about it. You are just masking the moment and setting it aside for later. You can never run away from it and stalling only seems to make things worse. Whatever may have caused this deep pain, you should stop to continually question the entire situation. Whether it is the loss of a loved one or a fight with a friend, things happen simply because they are a part of life.

When things do get difficult, you need the support of a friend or a loved one. No man is an island, and you need to seek out comfort somewhere else to better survive difficult situations. Comfort comes in many forms: in the comforting embrace, in the prayers, or in good wishes. You also need to constantly experience little blessings in order to see the brighter side of things. That is why, it is most important to cultivate healthy relationships with the people that surround you. What happens if you’ve surrounded with a great support system is the ability to get over suffering more quickly. This will be your greatest blessing because you know that you will always have someone to lean on when you can no longer do it on your own two feet.

Make a Great Impression

If speed dating is a form of punishment for you, you’re not going to like this fact: it takes only between five to fifteen minutes to make a decision not to hire you during an interview. Your window of opportunity is way smaller than you think. You need the remaining time to bounce back and make a great impression. Those very minutes could either make or break you. It’s time you make it count. When the person interviewing you greets you, establish eye contact, smile, and give a firm handshake. Always show your interest and appreciation because this is what they want to see. Also stand tall because this conveys interest, which is attractive, and that makes them want to get to know you more.

Also, you wouldn’t want to show an interviewer photos of yourself sloppy drunk at a party, or dish about the people you’ve hooked up with. But, if you’re posting details on a public page, then you pretty much already have. A full one-quarter of the recruiters report routinely doing Google searches on job candidates. If they find unwanted behavior, this reduces your chances of a job offer. To a recruiter, these photos make you look undependable, and not serious about work. Before you send out a single resume, Google yourself and delete any blog entries, tweets, and photos on social networking sites that could make you look bad. Though there’s no guarantee that they’re gone forever, and that’s one thing you’ll have to face up to. Then, make sure that your settings are private.

Morph into a good match. Nothing beats having multiple skills that relate directly to the position you’re after, but the quality that runs a surprisingly close second with future employers is being a “good fit” for the company. In other words, while you’re chattering on about past work experiences and future goals, interviewers are silently sizing up your appearance and overall demeanor in terms of how you’d fit into the culture in the workplace. In fact, having an image and personality that will mesh well with those other employees is so important that this gets your foot into the door.

Being a good fit is something you can actually control, and it takes just some detective work. Check out images in the company’s website to get access of how formal or laid-back employees are, and what the work environment looks like. Or, linger in front of the building one day and pay close attention to the types of things people carry around with them or how they dress themselves. Then, keep that all in mind when getting ready for your interview. You may feel like a stalker, but if you seem as if you belong there, then you’ll have a big leg up on the competition.

Also, try to impress the receptionist. Bosses often ask them which candidate impressed them most. When you arrive for the interview, introduce yourself and make polite small talk. And afterward, thank them warmly. Just don’t come on too strong. Know your place but show them that you’re looking forward to the opportunity.

Make a Great Impression

If speed dating is a form of punishment for you, you’re not going to like this fact: it takes only between five to fifteen minutes to make a decision not to hire you during an interview. Your window of opportunity is way smaller than you think. You need the remaining time to bounce back and make a great impression. Those very minutes could either make or break you. It’s time you make it count. When the person interviewing you greets you, establish eye contact, smile, and give a firm handshake. Always show your interest and appreciation because this is what they want to see. Also stand tall because this conveys interest, which is attractive, and that makes them want to get to know you more.

Also, you wouldn’t want to show an interviewer photos of yourself sloppy drunk at a party, or dish about the people you’ve hooked up with. But, if you’re posting details on a public page, then you pretty much already have. A full one-quarter of the recruiters report routinely doing Google searches on job candidates. If they find unwanted behavior, this reduces your chances of a job offer. To a recruiter, these photos make you look undependable, and not serious about work. Before you send out a single resume, Google yourself and delete any blog entries, tweets, and photos on social networking sites that could make you look bad. Though there’s no guarantee that they’re gone forever, and that’s one thing you’ll have to face up to. Then, make sure that your settings are private.

Morph into a good match. Nothing beats having multiple skills that relate directly to the position you’re after, but the quality that runs a surprisingly close second with future employers is being a “good fit” for the company. In other words, while you’re chattering on about past work experiences and future goals, interviewers are silently sizing up your appearance and overall demeanor in terms of how you’d fit into the culture in the workplace. In fact, having an image and personality that will mesh well with those other employees is so important that this gets your foot into the door.

Being a good fit is something you can actually control, and it takes just some detective work. Check out images in the company’s website to get access of how formal or laid-back employees are, and what the work environment looks like. Or, linger in front of the building one day and pay close attention to the types of things people carry around with them or how they dress themselves. Then, keep that all in mind when getting ready for your interview. You may feel like a stalker, but if you seem as if you belong there, then you’ll have a big leg up on the competition.

Also, try to impress the receptionist. Bosses often ask them which candidate impressed them most. When you arrive for the interview, introduce yourself and make polite small talk. And afterward, thank them warmly. Just don’t come on too strong. Know your place but show them that you’re looking forward to the opportunity.

Bye-Bye Bad Habits

Once your brain gets used to a routine, even a destructive one, it’s tough to shake free. A friend offers you a smoke whole you’re sipping your cocktail. You have a cigarette every now and then, and you’re hooked. So what’s the harm?  This is your brain battling a bad habit…and losing. As you continually perform a behavior, the neural pathways in your brains form new patterns. When a prompt arrives, such as the offer of a stick of nicotine, your brain shifts on autopilot. Situational cues bring out habits that are deeply embedded. These behaviors can be bad news and you need to break those bad habits pronto.

What if you’ve been chugging caffeine nonstop? When a coffee fanatic doesn’t get that fix, blood flow in the brain spikes. The expansion causes that annoying headache, while you also suffer from other nasty symptoms such as grumpiness and fatigue. You often visit the coffee shop to avoid this dilemma. A constant infusion can set your nerves on edge. High daily caffeine intake may decrease hand steadiness and increase anxiety. And when you consume more, you also increase your chances for diabetes. Break the habit by starting to write down every single thing you eat or drink for a few days to identify all the sources of caffeine. Soda, tea, and energy drinks are common culprits. Then, set to reduce your intake by about ten percent. You can also mix decaf with your full-strength coffee and slowly increase the ratio. Keep dialing back until your craving subsides.

How ‘bout if you take a quick drag every now and then? While regular smokers have a chemical component fueling their addiction, people who smoke only occasionally succumb mainly to social and environmental triggers. The most powerful prompt is often being around people who are smoking. Lighting up a few times is still poisoning yourself and there’s no lower limit of exposure to tobacco smoke that’s safe. Just one stick can injure the walls of your blood vessels, which can lead to heart and other problems. But benign cigarette substitutes can do wonders. Grab a drink stirrer and hold it between your fingers. Set it between your lips while you take out your wallet or phone. This keeps your hands and mouth busy. Carry nicotine gum or lozenges to help wean you off the addiction. Though these are healthier than cigarettes, they can be habit-forming as well. Practice restraint.

The bad habit that many aren’t aware that they have is laziness. Once or twice a week, it’s totally okay to grab some snacks and fire up the plasma in the evening. But if you do this every night, then you seriously have a problem. People who are under high levels of stress and who may not have a large network of friends are prone to isolation. To break this routine, decide which shows are a must-see. Get the DVD and watch at a later time. Zipping through commercials helps a lot. Make after-work plans as well. Join the gym or get into something.

Letting Your Relationship Rise

When you’re with someone, you’ll experience ups and downs. Some days will go by smoothly, while the other days just seem too difficult to endure. Of course, the economic crisis only makes matters worse. You just don’t know what’s going to happen to you tomorrow and if your job will still remain stable. All those issues can take their toll in every aspect in your life. When you don’t know what to expect, you become antsy, and while you can consider yourself a calm person, the uncertainty will take its toll on you, and this will become apparent with your closest relationships as well. You take out your frustrations to your loved one because you think he will be the one who understands you the most.

The truth is, the constant attack is simply unhealthy. You’re supposed to have each other’s back when things become too tough. Fights send the wrong message, and the constant venting will take its toll. So if you’re really irritated and want a way to express your frustrations, go and hit the gym first. As for your man, he should probably do the same thing. No matter how hard you try to be pleasant, you can falter at times. The point here is to avoid those situations and apologize when you slip. Clear the air whenever you can so that nothing turns into an all-out war.

And while you may be strapped for cash right now, you and your loved one should never give up the dreams you have as a couple. Of course, you don’t have to force yourselves to splurge when you know that’s not possible for the moment. Put your dreams on hold for now, and find ways to play out your dreams on a smaller scale. You just have to e a little more practical for now, but you still need to dream big. When you know that there’s so much in store in the future, the present can become more bearable. Plus, you two won’t feel as if you’ve also put your relationship on hold.

Continue to make plans and talk about the things you can do to make that future possible. Talking about the things that have yet to happen can be an exhilarating and rewarding experience. You’ll feel as if you’ve never gotten out of synch and that you’re still thinking about how to make each other happy. Even if your plans are still not feasible, talking about them is perfectly fine. In a way, it’s like telling your man that you still believe in an amazing future as a couple. And while the money issues can be frustrating, it’ll feel better knowing that you have someone helping you through all of it.

Capture the spirit of all your hopes and aspirations. And if that big future seems too far, do little things that make your relationship more special. When you look back, you’ll see that it’s actually those little gestures that have made the relationship that you have worthwhile.

Love the Job You Have

Of course getting out of bed gets tough. You don’t need to say goodbye to your boss forever and bid him adieu just to be happy with your career. Your professional life can go through its chares of ups and downs, and before you jump ship, think about what your options are right now. With so many companies holding firm on their hiring halts, you may put too many things on the line. Don’t feel trapped with your job if you look at things from a different perspective. Remember, there are always two sides to every story, and right now, you’re just too focused on one part.

Okay, so what if you haven’t had a raise in years? If you’re pay increase, along with everyone else’s, is axed from the plans, you need to stop complaining. Right now, your company had to do this in order for you to keep your job. Realize that and look for other ways to feel validated for a job well done. Set a new goal for yourself and work hard at getting there. If your boss sees that you’re actually motivating yourself to work harder, you’ll get the praises you deserve. Experts say that positive reinforcement works not only with children, but with adults as well. You know you’ve accomplished something, and that makes you feel more satisfied. Plus, with different companies downsizing, you really will have more on your plate. You will be valued once they see that you’re willing to do your share to help the company survive. Rest assured, once recession is over, you will also be the first to reap the rewards. Aside from that, you will get stellar recommendations from your supervisor. If you’re really strapped for cash, look for extra ways to earn money. Take an after-work job or start selling stuff online. Remember, you have a world of opportunities at your feet. With a little bit of research, you will definitely find ways to finance your indulgences.

So when others complain, it’s best that you keep your mouth shut. If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all. Nonetheless, be there for your colleagues. Hear them out and help lift their spirits. Talk to them about your plans of earning extra cash and form partnerships with them. Remember, two heads are better than one. You can even improve on your plans when you have inputs from other people. Be their ally in a different way, and make them feel that if you just put your heads together, you can actually make the best of the situation you’re in.

Remember, your boss is also under a lot of pressure, even more than what you’re getting. Instead of dragging others down with you, try to understand the situation. Don’t take this personally and just let your coworkers know that you can be each others’ pillar of strength. That way, all of you can keep your emotions under wraps and the atmosphere at work will be so much better.

Fitness from Within

They say that fitness begins from how you are within. Even if you look slim, as long as you don’t eat right, your body will pay for the ultimate price in the end. You can boost your health with the proper diet, exercise, and iron so you get a whole regimen. It’s all about balance. You need to change your lifestyle and go healthy. Diets don’t work because people think that they only need to sacrifice for a little while. After, they can indulge and eat whatever they please. That is the furthest thing from the truth because your body will constantly need the proper amount of nutrients. Junk and sweets won’t give you anything. In fact, you’re only clogging the arteries of your heart and making it work overtime.

Of course you can allow yourself to indulge every so often. It’s just all about keeping things in moderation. Everyone has their own so-called guilty pleasures, and the more you deny yourself of these things, the more you are prone to binging out one day. Enjoy those sinful treats but also know when to say stop. That way, you satisfy your wants but still give your body what it needs the most. During your meals, try to add more veggies. Have more fruits in between meals and go for those that are considered good in the glycemic index. The foods rated low here are the ones that keep you feeling full for longer periods of time. Get some dairy as well but you can go low-fat if you are afraid to gain weight. Lessen your salt intake as well. Flavor your food with herbs and spices instead for that extra flavor.

If you need to drink, green tea comes with a multitude of benefits. However, you sometimes avoid those nights out with friends. You’re more likely to take a glass or two of something alcoholic. If you must get, limit yourself to only a glass per day. Too much alcohol is simply bad for your liver. Plus, your skin will eventually look sallow and jaded.

Moreover, never forget to get the rest you need. If you’re thinking about too many things that cause stress, take a deep breath and meditate. Don’t allow yourself to sulk for long periods of time. Rather, try to lighten up your mood. A positive outlook can do wonders to your body. You’ll feel younger and you’ll have more energy for strenuous activities. You’ll see that this change will do wonders in your day and will give you the strength to surpass all the other hurdles you might be faced with.

It’s all about attitude adjustment as well. And when these things keep you awake at night, get the help of a friend. This is a better way to let out your anger. Plus, you’re more likely to get helpful advice. Knowing that you aren’t alone with your problems can make it seem lighter, and that’s because you’ll always have someone to turn to when you can no longer handle things by yourself.

Go Organic

Back then, people had the wrong notion of what healthy is. For them, milk was what strengthened your bones. But right now, studies have actually proven that most of your beliefs aren’t true. If you truly want to live a healthy life, then it’s time to go organic. Long before these foods became trendy, people assumed that fruits and vegetables made for boring meals. But now, people are also starting to realize that it’s not only healthier for you, but you’re also doing your part in caring for the environment. In fact, practitioners of organic and holistic diets say that man was designed to be an herbivore. If you took a look at the teeth and intestines, these were more similar to animals that ate grass and leaves. Moreover, if you did what nature intended, your body would find a way to heal itself even from the deadliest diseases.

If you plan to go organic, make sure that your meals don’t contain chemicals. Basically, this means that you read the labels for every purchase you make at the grocery store. If there was something you didn’t understand, put it back on the shelf immediately. When it comes to survival, your greatest ally would be mycorrhizal fungi. These are found on the plant roots, but the chemicals people use for farming are killing these wonderful health aids. Before you pick out your veggies and fruits, make sure that you get them from organic stores. Better yet, you can simply plant a few for yourself. That way, you know for sure that what you’re getting is totally safe. Remember, even small doses of chemicals can be just as dangerous. There is no safe amount and you just can’t argue your way out of it.

What makes organic foods better and safer? First of all, these are meals that are high in antioxidants. These nutrients are powerful enough to fight cancer. The best part is that these don’t cost much. You can check out the internet to see which among the shops near your area sell these amazing healing products. And thankfully, you can find the organic versions of what you eat. Scientists and dieticians are constantly hard at work to make these meals tastier. You’ll be surprised to discover at the number of choices you have. So instead of looking at your limitations, think about what you can finally enjoy.

When it comes to going green and healthy, you should know that it’s never too late to make the change. People of any age can go organic, and because these are completely safe, you should also realize that none of your health issues should come up. In fact, you’ll enjoy a better life once you make it into a habit. And if you’re concerned about the challenges you’ll face, everything gets easier with time. The first few months are the hardest but once you get used to it, you’ll never imagine going back to your previous lifestyle. This will be the best time in your life because you’ll feel better and livelier than ever.

Getting Through Difficult Days

People don’t look forward to Mondays. It’s hard to get back into the groove when you just had a fabulous weekend. But like all good things in life, nothing does last forever. You have the real life to contend with and responsibilities to fulfill. It’s all part of growing up and learning how life works. But this also doesn’t mean that you have to learn how to live through those tiring days. Weekdays can also just be as fun and interesting. You simply need to tweak your attitude and know that if you add something fun into your usual routine, workdays can be something you can look forward to.

Life is especially tougher now. People are working more and relaxing less in order to get by with bills and expenses. The more stressed you are, the less happy you can be. And sadly, people always assume that money is the solution to their dilemma. While that does help, some of the best things in life don’t cost a thing. So how do you add spice to an otherwise boring day? Here are just some tips that may help you get through:

-    Have piece of dark chocolate before you drive to work. You get a boost of dopamine into your system and feel that you’ll have more energy to accomplish all the tasks lined up.
-    Prepare some lavender or cinnamon scented incense. These have been known to relax your muscles and decrease feelings of anxiety.
-    Try to plan activities with friends in the middle of the week. That way, you have something to look forward to after work. Besides, these don’t have to last until the wee hours of the morning. Dinner and talk will do wonders because this could be a time where you can air out all your frustrations and have friends give you sound advice.
-    Give yourself a reward day. When payday is just around the corner, make time to shop. Saving money? You can still go to websites that sell second-hand items for a fraction of the usual cost. In fact, some of these are almost brand new, yet you get amazing discounts for it.
-    Make plans for the weekend. It’s always nice to look forward to something, and when you know that you’re getting ready for an event, the days won’t go by slowly.
-    Decorate your workspace with pictures of recent trips. When work gets too much, sit back and look at what you’ve already done. Knowing that you’re actually working to make your life better makes everything worth your while.

Work can be rewarding, but it’s also just as difficult. Some days are more difficult than others, but of course, you just can’t quit and forget all your responsibilities. You have the ability to make things better for you. A little bit of ingenuity is required from your end. And when you get through all those difficult days, you know that you also can enjoy the benefits. Treat yourself every so often because that gives you more willpower to get up in the morning and drive to work.

What You Were Meant to Do

Are you still in the process of discovering your life’s true calling? Do you wish you enjoyed your job as much as you ought to? With the economy going down the toilet, there’s actually one good thing that came out of it, and that’s you doing your best to reexamine the path you’ll choose to take. If you want to attain success, you have to feel fulfilled, and the only way to do that is to merge your passion and your talents so they can work in harmony and produce something spectacular. Rather than jumping from one job to the next or going to school to hone the skills you’re really not into, you need to think first about what makes your heart leap for joy.

One way to do that is to size up your strengths figure out your strengths and size them up. Recognize your talents and where your interests lie. Find out where they all dovetail by asking yourself what you want and what you can do. This is when you get to realize if the career that you have right now taps your penchant for a few of your favorite things in life. There are websites that will ask you series of questions, and at the end, it will also give you a list of fields you can flourish in. This comes in handy when getting up for work seems more like a chore nowadays. You can’t work this way forever. Sure, you now have a way of getting out of debts, but you never truly become happy if the things you do have somehow become automatic.

But before you jump ship and just up and leave everything, you also need to test-drive your dreams and goals. Admittedly, earning money from what fires your passion isn’t as easy as you would want it to be. Figure out the potential of the field you are thinking of getting into. Pursue the projects that you have a knack for and see if it’s doable. Don’t limit yourself to just a field. Your talents can be applied in a variety of situations. Do research and see what the most practical choice is and which one has the most potential. If the opportunities at work are limited and you need to do the discovering elsewhere, start slow. Part-time work gives you a glimpse of how it’ll be if you fully concentrated on it. Don’t hurry through the process. If it takes time, then give it time. When your other business moves forward, that’s when you can make the decision to quit your day job and concentrate on what you’re good at.

The point of the exploration is to give you a chance to gain some of the experience you need to do well. If the test career feels like the perfect one for you, make the transition by grabbing the opportunities that allow you to showcase your abilities. Build your reputation from there. By the time you’ve started your dream career on a full-time basis, you’ve already given yourself the weapons to do well.

Ways to Improve Your Mood

Sometimes, you constantly struggle through your mood swings. Whether it’s hormonal or stress-related, you can actually lift your spirits and feel better about yourself. How you start your day plays a very crucial role in how you’ll be in the hours that follow. So, start your mornings leisurely. Don’t hurry through the rituals and start feeling harassed early on. Instead, set your alarm earlier so you have time to roll around the sheets and lounge by the window as you eat your breakfast. Don’t just jump through your routines and end up forgetting some of the things you needed to do. Set a chill vibe for the rest of your day and see how different you’ll be when you get to work.

But more than anything, your sleep patterns will affect your mood. The less rest you get, the crankier you are. So, treat yourself to great scents when you hit the sheets. Several studies have shown that pleasant aromas lift your mod. Just buy a few essential oils and light the oil lamp on your bedside table. Experiment with a few and see which ones you like best. Many experts actually believe that the most soothing of scents are either chamomile or lavender. If you want to perk yourself up, go for the minty ones.

After a stressful day at the office, set a strict schedule and never sacrifice the time you have for sleep. When you get a full night’s rest, your body will be able to function better. Your system works best at healing itself when you get some zzz’s. Avoid late-night commitments if possible. If there’s one thing you can’t do, that would be make up for lost sleeping time. You are also more likely to wake up on the right side of the bed when you are fully rested.

Another aspect in your life that helps you improve your moods is when you know that you have someone you can run to. Big problems just won’t get to you as badly because you can actually talk about these with someone else. You don’t bottle up emotions and hide them under your vest. Venting it out is a healthy way to express your anger. So, make sure you communicate with friends regularly. Never forget who you have in your life. You’ll soon see that the relationships you have promote a healthier and more stable mindset. With today’s technology, you can even keep in touch with people who live elsewhere. Grab the opportunities you have, and while the people you care about may not be with you physically, a simple call shows you that they will be there psychologically and emotionally. It doesn’t take much to say hello, and you’ll soon see that there are actually those who are concerned with what you’re going through.

Remember, a cranky person is no fun at all. Sure, you’re allowed to have your ups and downs, but wouldn’t it be nice to just be happy most (if not all) of the time.

To Whom It May Concern,Hello, some time has lapsed since our last conversation…

What’s that you’re saying?  Yes, I too am aware of the concerns and fears of the people around the world…

I’ve seen articles and heard how television is depicting global warming, economic crisis, governmental crackdowns on human rights; not to mention political jockeying for Power and Control…

Not at all, I am not adding to the fear based doom and gloom of our nation nor for the world at large…

I’m just suggesting, as with all myth-perceptions, conventional thought is filled with the assumptions that people are inherently evil…

Programming from both secular and non-secular institutions have convinced the masses that the various forms of violence are destabilizing and destroying our civilization…  Such beliefs lead to an erroneous conclusion that aggressiveness and selfishness are within the very genetics of humankind and thus unavoidable…

Are we just an evolved form of a naked ape???

Okay… I can understand that you believe this dialogue is merely Rhetoric…

What if the purpose of this conversation is for each of us and the collective of us to consider this postulate: Fighting is less necessary when resources are abundant.  Therefore, when fighting decreases, resources become more abundant…

Go ahead, laugh!!!  This could offer some insight in a world that spends greater than one trillion dollars yearly on weaponry…

Yes, guns to butter…resources diverted from protection (fear/dominant based) to growth… a boost to health and societal prosperity…

Will we continue to view and co-create a dog-eat-dog world???

Are you suggesting that we held the view of humanity and life as a harmonious process and then prostituted our internal knowing of nurturing to existing in a violent jungle???

Absolutely!  This image was derived from biased observations and conclusions made using distorted science…

I know you think I’m off my rocker… But give me a moment…

What is often observed as violence in nature, is a byproduct of a predator-prey relationship.  There is a rivalry over territory, mates and food.  Yet within this form of violence it is rarely fatal… acknowledgement occurs in a territorial dispute and the defeated animal moves away…

Bear with me a little longer… Indeed, humans are part of this so-called fabric of life…

We are not at the bottom of the food chain nor do we dodge a natural predator…

Tell me then, what mandates man to prey upon another human???

Sat Nam…
Keliyah